Realationship Advice Needed Urgently

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major fight with boyfriend, scared its over :(?I had a major fight with my boyfriend this weekend over nothing. Both of us were drunk but things turned physical and I have some bruising. He didnt hit my directly but was shoving me around. He blames the whole thing on me. I can accept I was partly responsible as I shouldn't have said anything to start off with..nothing aggressive or anything but he wont take responsibility for what he has done and is blaming me for the whole lot of it. The bruising is worse in some areas I.e. bum where I was pushed into a unit but have added some pics. I do love him dearly and he has never ever behaved like this before. I don't want to lose him but he hasn't been in contact with me all day. I just don't know what to think about it and I'm in tears.

[maggiebee]

Only a few words to say - walk away while you still can!

[Baldric]

Laura, get out now, you don't need it!

[atalanta]

It will get worse. It always does. Secretly he enjoyed bashing you, and will enjoy it again. He is softening you up for more by his denials. It is a typical pattern and you have to see that. Time to go. If you don't go, he will believe that you accept his behaviour now, and will do so again. It can only escalate. This is not hysterical exaggeration - it is how ALL domestic violence starts. Believe me, I know.