Complicated Difficult Family Situation.

[Jenarry]

a close relative of mine has an unhappy relationship with his long term partner. They separated last dec and my relative soon found that his ex had started seeing an ex boyfriend(moved him in very quickly) and he went on to start a relationship with a girl of 26, he is in his forties.This new girlfriend very soon became pregant and baby is due in sept meanwhile my relative and his long term on off girlfriend are back together again and he is having nothing to do with pregnant gf.. My relative claimed the new gf had cheated on him so he doesn't think its his and his long term gf is going along with this along some other reasons that dont hold water..new gf tells me that its rubbish and she had only been with him, that she loves him and is upset he has gone back to his ex. Added to this new gf has 2 children already but social services became involved and their dad was given custody of them. And social services are involved with her pregnancy. I dont know tge story behind this but its obviously not good. I have offered to meet the pregnant gf and offer some support but it feels like I am going to end up in the middle of all this

[Jenarry]

Its all one big mess and I dont know what to do for the best. :(
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[craft1948]

Sounds like they could soon be on Jeremy Kyle.....

[ummmm]

Stay out of it, they are grown ups.

Offer support to the pregnant ex...but thats it. You'll end up falling out with people if you take sides.

[EDDIE51]

Yes stay out of it, they are full adults and they have to sort it out themselves. If you are seen to be 'taking sides' you are likely to end up upsetting people. Offer your relative support and friendship but keep it at that.

[pixie373]

I agree- don't take sides, but support the pregnant ex- keep the communication open. Your son has put you in this position, so he really can't complain at that, at least until there is a DNA test.

[ummmm]

It's not her son. If I remember correctly Jenarry's son is only little.

[pixie373]

Relative- not son, sorry x

[Jenarry]

Yes not my son and yes I have said myself it is all straight off the jeremy kyle programme. :( :( I am worried bout the long term gf getting angry at me having contact with preg gf but I feel its what I shoul

[Jenarry]

Should be doing and I am worrying what the story is behind the social services being involved and all because of my relative making a right mess and just walking away from it. :(

[Jenarry]

I would hope that my son will have a lot more sense than this when he's an adult let alone when he reaches his 40's.

[maggiebee]

Why is it always the poor innocent children who suffer? Totally selfish behaviour without any thought of the consequences!

[ladyalex]

Please stay out of this as much as you can.
You do not know and probably will never know the full story from anyone here but Social Services do not get involved for no reason and it is still unusual for a father to get custody of his children. By no means unknown, but unusual....there will be a story there .
I am sure you are right when you say that you are going to end up in the middle of this. And then both sides will find it convenient to blame you for all sorts of things.

[Jenarry]

I know maggiebee it's so sad. And my relative and long term partner have an 8 yr old daughter who has heard too much information and been an innocent bystander in all this too. :(