Birthday gift ideas for teminally ill dad

[fizzydrinks2]

Hi , my dad has been diagnosed with secondary bone cancer. He's a great dad and i adore him.

It's his birthday soon and i'm struggling to think of a special gift to buy him.

He doesn't eat much because his medication makes him feel ill, he can't drive anymore or walk much.

I've thought abouit a dvd or book, but you only watch/read them once.

Any ideas will br really appreciated - thanks x

[GraceAnais]

did you see mimififi's post from last night on the memory box she made her mother...that was a lovely idea.

[alijangra]

just what I was going to say! I think the personal touch is the way to go.

[GraceAnais]

it's still on the first page under 'best hand-made gifts'

[CLOWN TICKLE]

I was wondering if he had any interest in trees or plants or something could create some memories, I.m not trying to be insensitive here

[dancealot13]

A legacy Book.

This is a book for him to fill out. It asks questions, that someday you will be able to share with your kids to remember small details that people may forget. Things like "Where was your first kiss", "How did you propose to mom?", "Who was your best friend when you were a kid?", "What was is like when your first child was born?", etc. The book is pretty long, and it's filled with all sorts of questions for him to answer including questions about HIS parents and HIS grandparents and extended family. This way his legacy and his stories will go on forever through his own words,...not just your own, or your familys interpretaions. This book will then be handed down your family tree, it is a gift that keeps giving for ever. Hope this idea helped.

Your father is in my prayers. xxxcheers

[fizzydrinks2]

thank you so much for your thoughtful answers. I love the ideas x

[silly moo]

Sorry to hear about your Dad; not meaning to be insensitive but how long do you expect to have him with you?
My father (who died 3 months ago) appreciated several practical gifts that made his life easier.
I gave him a nurses fob watch when he could no longer wear a wristwatch and couldn't see the wall clock clearly.
He also had a car swivel seat, a portable raised loo seat for when he went out for the day. If he had still been with us the next present was to have been a raincoat / cape to wear in his wheelchair.

[silly moo]

Just thought of another slightly less practical gift. A bird feeder that fixes to the window.
I am sure there a many more ideas.

[huge piles]

my dad died about 2 years ago... but this is not about what him, more like about me in his situation... for christmas, my wee boy gave me one of these really cheapo little stand-up plaques...

"for a super dad...

this guardian angel has been sent to watch over your each day..." etc etc....

that means a lot to me, cos my wee boy chose it and bought it for me... musta cost �1.99 ? that means more to me than anything else...

don't think of 'useful' gifts, think of meaningful ones...

my heart goes out to you...

[ruthann58]

the leagacy book is a brilliant idea so many little things you will wish you had asked him make the most of the time with him while he is still here you dont have to do any thing just sit and be with him and most of all talk to him there are so many things i wish i had said , love to you both ruth xxx