asking a bloke out

[peagreen]

right here's the thing, i'm in my early 20's .. got out of a three year relationship about six weeks ago that had been dead in the water for several months so I can't say i've been all that upset.. i'm a medic and been working for the past 6 weeks with this uber fit doc. he's very lovely, always takes his time to talk to me and ask how my day is going, we've bumped into each other at the gym a few times and he always says sometime we should go for a coffee when we bump into each other at the gym. is this him being a friendly person or him being flirty - i've forgotten the ways of singledom!? i thought about asking him out..is the best way to ask a bloke out simply come out with it? or is there some secret male code to guarentee success! (failing that i might just get him jacked up on beer) ;o)

[gemmabe]

hey if he has asked you for a coffee he is either very lonely, unlikely if he's so fit, or he likes you. He has already made the first move by suggesting coffee, maybe you should suggest it next time? Keep us updated!

[peagreen]

aww the thought of him being lonely makes me a little weak at the knees and want to um.. "comfort" him! he's a pretty busy bee going out with friends, just i'm a bit unsure of the situation because he is just stunning..and it's a little intimidating! my gut says he's interested but i think the common female affliction of self-esteem suggests I am barking and that he's out of my league..

have made an excuse to pop into work tomorrow - got to pick up some xrays - honest - its pure coincidence he's working i promise

will keep you updated and thanks for answer

[laurence2]

peagreen, My wife has been a nurse for some 20 years now, and this post i find rather amusing as the amount of stories she has told me over the years { trainees/ nurses, medics etc } who feel it is a catch/ big thing to go out/sleep with a doctor, only to find out that Some doctors abused this position.

I'm not saying this doctor is doing this, and you might be right that he is lonely etc, altho your post suggest he is a busy bee, a busy bee for what reason {socialising}, And the other thing, if he's so fit and gorgeous, Why is he still single, I'm not saying he should'nt be single, but i,ve got a feeling he's playing you, i might be wrong and will apologise in Advance, but i would tread carefully?

Ps, as a matter of interest, How old is this doctor?

[kazminx]

he is asking the coffee question for a response..i think its a very snobbish suggestion that because he is a doc you should be careful etc..he is a man, he has asked you out for coffee, he is single..GO FOR THE BLOODY COFFEE GIRL..it doesnt matter what he does!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! oh, and wear something hot so you look different out of work and gym!!

[mkt]

def go for the coffee!! i was in a similar position to you once....early twenties, 4year relationship.....forgot how to be single...through work (although he wasnt a colleague) got chatting to this gorgeous fella who said he'd be in the local later that evening and if i was out he'd like to buy me a drink. It wasn't a date or anything but i decided i had nothing to lose and was gonna go to the pub anyway. As promised he bought me a drink, we had a chat and years later we're still together! You've nothing to lose so why not just go for the coffee. It may turn out he bores you rigid but at least then you can stop wondering 'what if'. Hopefully you'll get on great! Be yourself though as you can only keep an act up for so long...so dont just say you like a certain past time or music etc just to agree with him!

[Belle Fast]

I think you should be subtle, but show him you like him, eg saying "it was nice talking to you' when you are saying bye at the gym. Don't ask him out but be ready with your answer if he asks you to go for coffee again, eg reply "i would like that'. Good luck!