I Wish . . .

[rabet]

Do you have regrets about relationships you ended or were ended for you? I have both, and would give anything to go back and reverse the decisions.

[gness]

Oooo, Rabet.....what a question....I would probably reverse a relationship that was started.
My boyfriend's mother was so smitten with me and desperate to have a "daughter" to plan a wedding for that I married him! Yes, I was that soft in those days....I didn't want to let her down....

But I would never have had my son from that marriage....so now...I wouldn't change a thing....

Before I had my son?....I should have run a mile......☺

[rabet]

Gness, that is so complicated!

[Baldric]

Regrets, No, but will admit to a certain curiosity about someone I knew as a friend and neighbour, who tried to instigate a closer friendship with me about the same time as I met my OH.

[gness]

I know, Rabet...... I'm a simple soul...but I like everyone to be happy...so I end up with the most complicated life....

I only came on AnswerBank...in all innocence ...to ask a question about a car... and look what happened to me..... ;-)

[gness]

Rabet...if you could reverse those decisions would your life be better... happier...?

[Baldric]

Talking Tillet Court there ^^ rabbet, your locale

[tamborine]

Looking back on my 'love' marriage that I have no regrets for but for his family's constant intrusions and objections. There's a lot to be said for 'arranged marriages' when the two families support the couple.

[rabet]

Sorry to have started such an intriguing topic so late at night; please contribute and I will be back with you tomorrow morning, after a night of tears and self re-crimination.

[gness]

Oh, Rabet.......I'm sorry.....(x)

[DaisyNonna]

Arranged marriages? Give me strength not to swear like a trooper!

[tamborine]

only to get on with inlaws Daisy....my MIL was a monster

[DaisyNonna]

Mine was manipulative and doted on her darling boy. No problems until she came to live nearby.

[Mamyalynne]

Rabet so sorry you are sad, take care.♥


I had a relationship that was complex and at times violent but after that ended I met a wonderful man and was happily married for 35 years.

He died in 2008 and I have now got a wonderful gentleman friend who I care for very much.

Regrets and recriminations do nothing but make us unhappy.

[boxtops]

No. I could have done some things differently, but it's all in the past - no point in even thinking about it, and the outcomes would have been the same. What ifs can make you miserable...

[chaptazbru2]

No, no regrets at all. My dog has proved more of a friend and companion than any man ever could !

Sorry to hear about your problems rabet ..