trying to be be cheerful.

[Blyss]

My husband left the UK on Monday due to an immargation thing , he has has to go back to the US to applie for a spousal visa , even though we have been married for over 3 years and have lived here all that time .
Anyways , I am at a total loss as to how to cope without him being here , I dont go outside much and he always did all the shopping and bill paying , I ran the house and did the cooking and stuff .
Its only been 4 days since he left and he will be gone 3 months and although when he left I never broke down or cryed or did the omg I cant live without you stuff , I have felt today that I am kinda getting weepy , infact I did lay on the sofa today and cried like a newborn needing a breast.
I dont have any family to speak off , and we just moved here and I dont know anyone , plus remember I dont go outside if I can help it .
I just feel like a part of me , my right hand , my soulmate has gone n Im just lost.

just thought for once since I joined AB that I would share .

[treacle84]

Oh Blyss I really feel for you. I'm really sorry to hear your husband will be away for a while. Can I ask why you don't go out much? There are always people to talk to on here if you feel a little low. Do you have friendly neighbours you could become friends with? Just trying to think of ways you can keep yourself busy. I don't really know what else to say only this will make you a stronger person in the long run x

[dot.hawkes]

how did u manage before you were married, he is only a man, shopping, working, doing the household bills, that is well within your capabilities, make sure when he gets back you have managed to cope without him, for goodness sake woman, we can't have him thinking he is indispensable, it would give some of the blokes on here ideas above their station! lol

[Blyss]

i have an x hubby who has said that hes watching me , whatever I do , and has even called and told me what I bought in the local store .
An hes an x pro boxer to boot, so my now hubby is fearful for me , and my lawyer have been trying to get an interdited {sp} since last november agaist my x . Its a very long long drawn out story.
We did change the fone number before My husband left for the states thou ...so thats a plus I supose .
My neighbours are wonderful , the only friends I have to be honest .
I just miss my husband , but Im gona learn things while hes not here , daft things like ...who to open a bottke of wine , how to put a light bulb in ...lol
yup I have been that spoiled .

[inej]

Hi Blyss , i am sorry for everything you are going through, i only moved to a different area of the country for a while and i felt lonely , didn't know a soul so i sort of can share the loniless . Is there any groups or clubs you can join ? have you any hobbies you have to take your mind off thing's. I know you don't know me but if you ever feel lonely or need a chat i will talk to you (may bore you to tears) but that genuine offer xx

[whiskeysheri]

Hi Blyss, I'm sorry you're unhappy. I've got the nicest shoulder in the world... (to cry on of course! :o))

Please MSN/Email me whenever you need talk (I mean it). Lots of love xxx

[Blyss]

LMAO Dot ..yes I know !! LOL
He is wonderful really , there is so much more to this story than you could imagine , before he came here in 2001 myself and my x had a good relationship , when My now husband came on the seen , my x got a tad ***** , has been like a boil ready to burst ever since ..lol
So I aint ever had to do things for myself , not really , I am a chef thou by trade ..lol
but like I said theres a hella lot more to this , sopa oprah kinda stuff .
You think Mike Baldwin had {has } problems ..lol

[Minxie]

Hi Blyss, sorry to you feel so unhappy. You have lots of friends on here too. And if you need help opening a bottle of wine. Get a screwtop. So much easier.

Not being flippant. Just trying to make you smile :) xx

[Blyss]

I tried to add you to my msn whiskeysheri but it seems its not a valid email .
msn is a pain sometimes
anyways ...try mine
[email protected]

[Blyss]

LOL minxie , as for now Im sticking to smirnoff , it has a screw off lid .

[dot.hawkes]

Blyss just keep thinking you are not a victim, think 'i am 10 feet tall', women stick together as a rule and so you need to use all the offers of help from this site, it really can help, despite the superficial appearance (yukky orange) it is pure gold on here.

[Minxie]

Dot, I apologise for previously saying I thought you were stern. Great advice given here.

[Blyss]

I do love this site and yall{notice my southern drawl there }
I do need a kick up the arse as well

[dot.hawkes]

Oh was that you minxie? (dotty puts on her sternest granny voice!)

lol, just make sure you watch strictly dance fever on sat nght and vote for my paul and his partner aravon! then i shall let u off! lol

[Blyss]

Dot, who is Paul , should I start watching this and vote for him ?

[dot.hawkes]

paul Culshaw he is my saturday lad at the shoe store i work in (Debenhams Wigan) he has worked there since he was 16, (6 years) he is thru to the mansion and dances live this saturday night, 6pm BBC1! And yes, votes would be good! lol

[Blyss]

well my fone will be clickin .
GO PAUL!!

[dumb]

Hi Blyss, sorry I'm a bit late here :-) but just wanted to say, I am sorry that you are feeling so down. But on the plus side you are here on AB and there are a great bunch of people here who will genuinely care and help you through this. How long is he away for? 3 months? Well in the grand scheme of things thats nothing! Honestly it's not that long, even though I imagine it feels like forever just now. BUT it is long enough for you to, find a new hobby or skill, maybe go to a class at your local college? You can meet new friends, learn some new skill or talent etc All of this will help fill your time, so that you are not just sitting in the house watching the clock, and also will help you meet new people, maybe make some friends and develope your social skills, to give you more confidence in yourself and your abilities.

lol repeat after me : "I am a strong, independant woman, and I can do anything!"
I know it's corny lol but my mum makes me say it out loud (and proud lol) when I am feeling down or am not confident about my ability to cope with something.
Good luck, stay in touch on here, please?? x x