Sexual relationship problem

[jjf2003]

Are my partner and I really suited? I like the Benny Hill Show (lots of legs) and films like McLintock and Secretary (spanking scenes), my partner says they are sexist mysoginist porn. I am a sexual animal, in fact I'm insatiable, and would have sex at least once a night. We only have sex when she's in the mood, on average once every 4-6 weeks. I am into experimental sex (e.g. fetishism, role-playing, costumes and bondage), she will have absolutely none of that. So are we really suited?

[dave_in_cw]

No. Get out of there and find someone who's more up for what you like. Frustration is a waste of energy.

[TRINITY]

You haven't mentioned how well you both get on other than sex, if sex is the only problem try and workon it slowly but sounds like you want different things which she can't give you so it's your call suffer boring sex and an otherwise ok relationship or reach for the stars. I know which one i'd go for stars************************************

[molly]

You sound like a typical man - sex mad. It's no wonder your partner is put off. There is actually a difference between having sex and making love. Try being a bit more thoughtful!

[treaclefight]

sometimes women get frustrated too, if you think about it, the chances of you and the random person you have ended up with, having the same sexual ideas and drive at the same time are pretty minimal. there's certainly a difference between making love and sex, but theres room in a relationship to have both these things. however, you need to take the pressure off or you won't be getting either. :-)

[Greedyfly]

There is NOTHING wrong with experimenting - and that comes form a girl!

[Morrisonker]

i'm in the same situation (kinda) I can't get enough of sex with my boyfriend. I want to experiment, and although he says he's ok with it, nothing has happened yet. Your partner is probably just shy or maybe has a low sex drive, although it sounds selfish to break up because of sex, it *is* an important part of a relationship...

[nykkieberry]

Most couples have slightly out of sync sex lives - whether because of differing sex drives or because of external pressures - childrten; work; tiredness; low self esteem. However, there's a BIG difference between wanting it every night and wanting it once a month. Have you actually talked to your partner to find out why she wants sex so infrequently? Rather than focusing on your wants, how about her needs? She may be lacking confidence about her body or feeling threatened by what you expect of her. She may be happy with experimental sex where partners are equal or take turns being in control (I am) but as a 'womanist' (judging by her views) has a problem with 'mysogynist and sexist porn' where women are objectified or worse still, violated (I do). There's world of difference. Talk to her. Find out what's going on. Compromise or call it a day.

[FTVS]

How long have you been together? Of course there are many other important things in a relationship but if this one is relatively new and you are already this out of sync sexually maybe you should move on.

[Zwanzig]

4-6 weeks without sex is far too long. If you are not committed, financially or emotionally and don't have kids, get the hell out of there!!!