Someone for everyone?

[Zwanzig]

I've heard so many people say this, but it has major flaws. Let me explain my thoughts: If someone is very ugly, surely they are beyond attractiveness in any form even if they have an outstandingly good personality? The same goes for the criminally insane or mentally ill, some disabled people and people with debilitating emotional disorders. That aside it's a nice ideology. However I will not subscribe to it unless someone can persuade me otherwise. Please give me your views.

[treaclefight]

i agree that there isn't one perfect person for everyone, however i do think there will be lots of perfectly adequate people out there, some of them quite local too.

[sft42]

Have you never seen those mad serial killers waiting on death row getting marriage offers...and if you trawl the seedier side of the net you'll find there is a certain diserning type would find amputees to be quite the turn on......as Treacle says if your looking for Mr/Mrs 100% right your going to be looking a looonnngg while, cause no one is a perfect match (well very few as makes no odds) but most people are lucky enough to find someone that the can be compatible with.....NO it's just little ol' me who's destined to walk through life alone.

[incitatus]

ther is always someone who will do. attractiveness isnt everything. nor is wit. it is a balance of these things that matters. As for disabled people- i went to college with a paraplegic who got more female company than any four of his able bodied freinds put together. Love is truly blind to imperfections. Neither myself nor mrsinci are lookers on the grand scale of things but we make each others pulses race which is all that matters.

[Headtime]

I always illustrate how 'beauty is in the eye of the beholder' like this;

Think of all your friends and those dearest to you...How many of them are ugly? If you are like me, then none of them.

Is this beacause I only make friends with beautiful people? No, it's because I like my friends and so to me they are attractive.

I have a very old friend, who I genuinley feel is one of the most attractive people I know. Whilst not being beautiful in the accepted supermodel sense, she radiates a warmth, humour and aura that many find positively intoxicating and attractive, and thus way overtakes any superficial visual criteria.

[smudge]

Headtime, your comments on this issue were heartwarming. It's so nice when people see beyond the skin. Everyone loves to be loved & liked for who they are, not what they look like! Cheers.

[Headtime]

Ahhh, thanks Smudgeroo! Your comment just warmed my heart too!

[sylvia]

My personal belief is not only is there someone for everyone, but there's lots and lots to choose from however ugly people decide they are, or however mad, they will find their true love. The only problem is if you have a mental health disorder, such as autism that makes it very hard for you to understand yourself and others, but people with Aspergers, a mild form of autism, often form good relationships. Sometimes unrealistic expectations have to be ajusted first, I have had to come to terms with the fact that Prince William is probably not interested in a middle aged bag lady like me, but I can take my pick from middle aged bag men!

[OneEyebrow]

There may well be someone for everyone but the question is how to find them?

[Zwanzig]

Some interesting responses to my question, thanks everyone.. I think OneEyebrow has raised the killer question now. Where are they??