Problem With Sis (Again)

[boona]

Hi everyone, my older female friend has invited myself and my young daughter to stay in her Spanish apartment for a wk in Spain, really looking forward to a relaxing holiday and excited for my daughter who has not been abroad, I'm really looking forward to My daughter and I spending quality time together. When I first told my sister she asked if her and her child come and I said no because I have been invited by my friend and my friend doesnt even know her, anyhow my sister has now asked if she pays for my nephew will I take him with me. Am I being selfish because I don't want to take him? I'm really annoyed that my sister has made me feel bad about this.

[chrissa1]

No you're not being selfish at all. Your friend invited You and your daughter, not your sister.

I'd tell her to take a running jump and enjoy the holiday with your daughter.

[sherrardk]

No, go and have a fab time. Don't feel guilty and don't give in to any 'guilt trips'.

[scorpiojo]

What Chrissa said :)

[boona]

Thanks, she always manages to make me feel bad, thing is, she would be happy to take my daughter away with her but I wouldn't want or ask her too

[phleb]

No, you are not selfish. i think you should be firm and tell her this is time for you to spend with your daughter, and suggest maybe she should do the same with her child, but just not with you. I know how you feel, sisters can be so overwhelming sometimes and have a tendency to make you feel bad. We love them dearly, but we also have a life without them. In your case put your child first and if she wants her child to have a holiday, then that's her responsibility to book one without you.

My sister asked me to take her daughter on my family holiday, but i said no. Reason being, this was my first holiday with my children, and i wanted to spend quality time with them, without anyone else around. I don't see that as being selfish. Selfish is parents wanting to dump their kids on others! enjoy your holiday hon xx

[losgigs]

No, you're not being selfish. Say that there aren't enough bedrooms, or that your friend who owns the apartment doesn't want more than 1 child there. As you say, your friend doesn't know your sister, so it's perfectly understandable that the offer doesn't include her or her son.

[chrissa1]

I think she is being quite, cheeky and presumptuous to expect your friend to accept a "stranger" into her flat. It's like me saying, "oh thanks, but can I bring my next door neighbour, too. Not, on!

[DaisyNonna]

Never had a sister but would be horrified by this request. This is your life, not hers.

[tinkerbell23]

No not selfish... Just say you want a HOLIDAY to relax and spend quality time
With your daughter xx

[boona]

I told my sister that my friend said no but if she wants to take her son and rent the apartment some other time she can. My sister said "that's strange she already has one child there, tell her I said thanks

[tinkerbell23]

Id leave it there then! Lol x