Daughter Wants Gastric Band Surgery !!

[dieseldick]

my 20 yr old daughter wants a band in, she is at uni and cannot afford this so wants me to help her. since she has been young she has struggled with weight, she recently told me she is getting depressed over her weight, i know how she feels and i am thinking seriously about starting to save money for her to get this done. if she wasnt suffering depression then i would not have known but who wants their child to suffer ?

all her life she has tried to eat right , she is a vegetarian also but she eats loads of bread cheese and all wrong foods, also i think her weight is hereditary as he mum struggles with weight and so do i . me and her mum split when she was 7 years old.

i want to help her i hate to see her suffer.

[cazzz1975]

a lot of people say the minicule food food feels like it sits in their throat for hours afterwards, also they have to stick to softish food

[Ric.ror]

it certainly wouldn't be a lot of cheese. "Meals" would be miniscule.

Even with a bypass? I thought you could literally eat what ever you wanted and then go straight to the loo?

[grasscarp]

Not quite what you like!

The greatest risks of the gastric bypass diet come from not following the diet properly. If you eat too much or eat food that you shouldn't, you could have complications. These include:

•Dumping syndrome. This complication occurs most often after eating foods high in sugar or fat. These foods travel quickly through your stomach pouch and "dump" into your intestine. Dumping syndrome can cause nausea, vomiting, dizziness, sweating and eventually diarrhea.
•Dehydration. Because you're not supposed to drink fluids with your meals, some people become dehydrated. You can prevent dehydration by sipping 48 to 64 ounces (1.4 to 1.9 liters) of water and other low-calorie beverages throughout the day.
•Nausea and vomiting. If you eat too much, eat too fast or don't chew your food adequately, you may become nauseated or vomit after meals.
•Constipation. If you don't follow a regular schedule for eating your meals, don't eat enough fiber or don't exercise, you may become constipated.
•Blocked opening of your stomach pouch. It's possible for food to become lodged at the opening of your stomach pouch, even if you carefully follow the diet. Signs and symptoms of a blocked stomach opening include ongoing nausea, vomiting and abdominal pain. Call your doctor if you have these symptoms for more than two days.
•Weight gain or failure to lose weight. If you continue to gain weight or fail to lose weight on the gastric bypass diet, it's possible you could be eating too many calories. Talk to your doctor or dietitian about changes you can make to your diet.

[ladyalex]

Most 20 year old get 'depressed' about their weight.
Gastric surgery really should be the last resort after other methods of weight reduction have been tried.
If she is depressed, treating the depression should help her self esteem and may remove any desire for surgery.
What seems like a quick fix now may have far reaching consequences.....not to mention the immediate risks of, for example, the anaesthetic, wound infection etc.
Having had surgery several times (never for weight loss or for cosmetic reasons) I would not put myself through it unless it was absolutely necessary.

[dieseldick]

It sounds a good idea which will save her from years and years of useless and ineffective dieting.

correct, i grew up and so did my mother yo yo dieting and struggling with weight issues and being down and depressed. ni dont want my kid going through that. i will help her pay for it. she can get it done in france for £3200.

[dieseldick]

i spoke with her mum about this today , her mum said she grew up comfort eating and had isssues when me and her mum split. i hate to see my child suffer because of this its killing me. i have some savings and have asked her mum to go in with me .

i want to hear from anyone who had the band done , was it worth it, did it last etc etc etc

[Tilly2]

I wouldn't, if it was my daughter. I would rather pay for her to go into some sort of rehab place to sort herself out.

[dieseldick]

I wouldn't, if it was my daughter. I would rather pay for her to go into some sort of rehab place to sort herself out.

really ? you must be minted !!

[Daffy6543]

There is no way I would consider this for one of my daughters!
It doesn't even sound as if your daughter is clinically obese, what does she weigh, what is her BMI?
Others have managed to lose the weight in a healthy way and they have been fat for far longer than your daughter in many cases.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-3014396/Obese-woman-comfort-ate-way-19-stone-bullied-having-gay-mother-sheds-HALF-body-weight.html

[Zacs-Master]

Your daughter needs some psychological help. You're suggesting treating the symptoms not the cause. She's not depressed because she's overweight, she's overweight because shes's depressed.

[Prudie]

I agree Tilly, no way would I put my 20 year old daughter through this surgery without having tried and exhausted every other avenue and that would take her way past 20 yrs old. Diesel you're highly unlikely to find more than 1 or 2 ABers who might reply from experience. You really should research this surgery elsewhere. I understand you are desperate to help but you seem to think this operation is like a magic pill.