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[david1981]

Hi im an unmarried father 24 years old my child was born after dec 2003 and i was there for the registration of my child so my name is on the birth papers last week my now ex girlfriend and i broke up my ex was working full time and i have been at home with the child for the past 12 months being her full time carer two days after we broke up she packed up and moved 500 miles away to wales now refussing to speak to me or even let my child hear my voice on the phone can anyone please give me advise thanks

[kazzianne]

Have you spoken to a solicitor? My boyfriend went through something similar.He had a parental rights agreement with her - have you got one of those?

[noxlumos]

Hi, Well firstly there's nothing in law to state that she can't live as far away from you as she likes but hopefully you have rights about access etc or at least will be able to get them through the courts. this all sounds very acrimonious at the moment. Try giving it a little bit of time to calm down and then try talking nicely ( however you might feel) to your ex and explain that you don't want to get solicitors etc involved, you'd much rather do it all by mutual agreement and hopefully she might see the wisdom in that. Meanwhile see a solicitor anyway and get some advice on your legal situation so you know what you can and can't do.Good luck and I'm sorry for your troubles.

[redcrx]

Your first point of call is going to have to be a solicitor. They will be able to tell you the legalities of something like this.

I cant imagine what you must be going through at this time.

Good luck with finding help and seeing your daughter soon.

[Whickerman]

never mind visitation - go for custody. Disregard stories about how the father never wins - they aren't all true. Good luck.

[Pippa68]

The law changed in December 2003 regarding unmarried fathers & parental responibility. You should have this automatically if your child was born after this date & you are on the birth certificate as the father.

You must see a Solicitor pronto in order to sort out contact. You must be beside yourself & I feel for you!

Good luck...

[david1981]

hi thanks for all the advise so far ive been to seen a solicitor yesterday and also found out that there living in a registered mental helth home that her mum runs but there doesent seem to be much i can do till i know were there living at the moment i only know there living in wales . For kazzianne my solicitor told me that as i was at the regitration of the child i have full parental rights same as the mother also for whickerman thanks for your advise but at the moment i would much perfer to see the child have equal contact with both parents 1 because i dont want to see the child get hurt in anyway and 2 i should imagien it cause lots of problems down the line in years to come but maybe i wont have much choose in the weeks to come again many thanks for your support on this matter as many of you will be parents yourselfs thanks

[david1981]

also a small note i know non of you know me but i can promise you ive not done anything to deserve this like use violance against the mother or anything like that it was just a genarel brackdown of the relationship just thought i would try to give as much info as possible to get the best from your answers

[kazzianne]

Thats interesting - I didnt realise that you automatically had full parental rights after 2003.Explains why boyfriend was so desperate to get his ex to sign one - child was born in 2001.We have had similar problems - his ex moved one weekend and emptied his old house!! We finally found where she lives and its less than an hour from us,so give it a little time.Do you have a mobile number for her at all? How do you know she is in a mental health home?

[david1981]

hi kazzianne i have a mobil number that my mum rang and spoke to the mother but since i spoke to a solicitor my solicitor rang them and told her that they would be answering any of the calls from myself or any member of my family

[Whickerman]

I understand how you feel. However, the courts will decide the outcome of this. You should apply for sole custody, and let them work down from there - think of it as bargaining

[david1981]

whickerman that may be the only way thanks for taking the time to reply ill see how things are for the next few days and then decied from there thanks for all who replyed

[dancealot13]

In America, if both of you have custody over the child and a parent moves away without giving you access to the child...thats considered Kidnapping. A parent absolutely cannot just get up and take a child from another parent without giving full access to baby.

[dancealot13]

So the fact that she got up and moved without giving you the address and location. That's kidnapping. If your the father and you have split custody, meaning your bothare the caregivers--then she cannot just get away with what she's done. Im so sorry you have to deal with this expecially after you have been the one to take care of the child.

[david1981]

hi dancealot thank you for the kind words im afraid it seems in this country uk if both parents have full parental rights both parents can do this aslong as you dont leave the country also im making some progress and got a text this evening saying i could call to speak to my daughter to all you guys that have replied please keep up the good work u really are helping theres a lot of things that there seems to be no support for thanks

[Schlomo78]

Hi david, just a website you might want to have a butchers at,there are quite a few blokes in your position so maybe this will be of some help,there are a lot of articles in there to do with your rights as well. Good Luck.

http://www.fnf.org.uk/fnfindex.htm