Am I in need of help?

[brooklyn77]

Ok, I realise that If I am ill I will go to the docs..but I dont think I am...just after an answer...

I am in love with a girl (I am male) she lives 150 miles away...a two hour train journey.. I see here most weekends.

But when I am not with her I have good and bad moments..the good times mean that time goes quick and the weekend comes round real quick again..

But the bad times...are bad...when I miss her i start to disengage everyone around me, I go into a trance almost...I feel so bad about missing her that I want to just sometimes collapse and shutout the world until the next weekend comes around..I cant because I work..but I fond it so hard and difficult..

what I want to know is...is that normal? Am I being over obsessive? Am I being too keen , am I not in control ? If I am not in control should I seek help, what is "not in control" or is it just normal cos I am in love...full and helpful explanations greatly recieved.

[brooklyn77]

P.S We are an item..I am not obsessing over a stranger or a friend....we have been seeing each other for 3-4 weeks. Thanks

[Redbel]

brooklyn77, that is totally natural to feel that way. Because you live so far apart you want to be with her even more, it's not like she lives around the corner or a bus ride away and you can just pop around. Best of luck you sound like a lovely guy.

[jno]

classic symptoms of lovesickness! Have a look at this: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lovesickness

Not everyone suffers as much as you, but many have through the centuries (after all, some people get colds worse than others). Should you seek help? Yes, if it's disturbing you or disrupting your ability to live your life as you would want to. It sounds as though this may be the case? Or can you in fact manage to function normally, if rather absent-mindedly? As with any ailment, it's up to you to decide whether it's causing you enough grief to want to change it.

[miss_me]

i wouldnt say your ill... but if your finding you miss her this much already maybe look at everything else in your life to see if its ok? only because i find when i'm not happy i kinda cling to the thing that makes me most happy, i think this is normal. just dont depend on anyone to keep yourslef sane or happy...

at least you found someone to make you happy though :o)

[brooklyn77]

Well thanks for all your help so far everyone...all really nice and helpful answers...more answers are welcomed of course but so far every answer has been well worth the effort so thanks...and Bez...thanks for the compliment !

[lindapinda]

I agree with Bez,it's the distance that's making you all "crazy"..it's normal to want to be together a lot,when you first meet someone you're mad about,but,you're not able to do that! It's like anything you really want..but aren't able to have or see! You only want it more!

[PhilBy]

Sounds like you are in love mate, bloody aweful aint it :-)

[raysparx]

Hello brooklyn,

Welcome to the "I AM IN LOVE CLUB" boy you got it bad,lovely warm feeling isn't it. this could be the one for you,if that is what you want,good luck to yo both.

Take care,have a great life,Ray

They are the same feelings I got when I met my wife,she was 16 I was 19 we have been married 35 years so for us it was to be.

[Pippa68]

I felt exactly the same when I met my husband. We lived 200 miles apart and I thought about him constantly..had the same symptoms as you, in fact :o)

We moved in together 9 months after we met as we couldn't stand the distance any longer. 10 years on, 2 children & a wedding later I still feel those things when we are apart only on a not-so extreme scale..I love him to pieces.

I hope she is 'THE ONE'

[brooklyn77]

Thanks for all the latest answers...really good to know I am not going crazy...not yet anyway...good to hear about all the good stories about marriage and lasting relationships too...makes a change from all the doom and gloom life can bring sometimes...thanks all.

[CLOWN TICKLE]

Mine is the same story as Pippas, today is our 18th Wedding Anniversary, good luck

[Pippa68]

Happy anniversary CLOWN TICKLE! hope you have had a lovely day :o)