pregnant

[sarah27]

i found out over the weekend that im 4 weeks pregnant it wasnt planned my bf is very pleased as hes going to be a dad but i dont no how to take the news i feel happy but also sad i dont no what to do ??

[kazzianne]

Its a huge shock to the system if you werent planning a baby.You mind is probably going haywire! Just sit down,have a cup of tea and think what it is that is making you sad - maybe the responsibility,money worries etc?

[redcrx]

I was in the same boat 18 months ago. my bf and i had only been seeing each other for 2 months.

Shock is a natural reaction when baby isnt planned. Take a few days to just relax and calm down and then talk through your hopes and fears with your bf.

Can i just recommend a pregnancy support board for women due in jan 07. You will find others in exact same position on there. I used one of these boards throughout my pregnancy and have made a great many friends now our babies are all coming up to 1 year old.

http://messageboards.ivillage.co.uk/iv-ukpbjan07

best of luck for future

[girlygirl]

Our baby daughter was planned.However, we tried and tried for about 6 months before I conceived successfully, evey month that I came on we would go to the supermarket and get hopelessly drunk (not sure if out of sadness or just I could!) When I found out I was pregnant for both of us it hit home (God what have we done?) then I figured that we loved each other so what really was the problem? We are not rich by any means (infact the total opposite!!) however I knew our family and friends would never let us go hungry (not that we ever have) and although I was only 20 I was so happy that out of our love we had made our beautiful baby - I have never looked back. Especially at the 1st scan - its so human even at only 12 weeks! That 1st night in Hospital when everyone had gone home and I just stared at her all night. If you don't believe in love at 1st sight, you soon will. Just enjoy your pregancy, go to Mothercare and pick out clothes you find adorable! Look on websites for names and smell Johnsons talc!!!!!

Congratultions - your very lucky! : )

[boobesque]

i felt the same, i was on the pill for two years and conceived on xmas day, 6 weeks later i was very shocked when i found out, and at first didnt know how to react, now i am 18 weeks and after the shock wore off, about a week later i was estatic and still am!

[Bohne]

I am pregnant at the moment, and even though it was absolutely planned, sometimes I sit down and think: What the hell was I thinking about.

No problems at all with the pregnancy itself, but the thought that my/our whole life is going to be turned upside down, and wondering whether I will be able to cope with work, baby, and other personal life, makes me worry sometimes.

I think it's great that your boyfriend is looking forward to being a dad, however, go and talk to him about your thoughts and worries. Worries shared are worries halved, while happiness shared is happiness doubled.

[curiosity]

You'll soon feel really special & excited. Can I just give you a little tip? Lots of people in your situation (as I and many others have been with unplanned pregnancies) say "it was a mistake" then go on to try and compensate this negative (but genuine) term with a "but we're happy etc" and feel a little bit regretful saying it. I know I did. Last year an aunty came to visit with her 3rd (in quick succession) baby granddaughter, and as she's cuddling her she's explaining that she was "a mistake, " I turned to the baby and said "oh were you a surprise were you?" 3 months later I heard Aunty explaining to the christening quests that she was a lovely "surprise". It might get your point across, but in a more positive and less guilt producing way. Good Luck.

[Bohne]

Hey, how are you feeling now?

I hope the happiness about the wonder that is going to happen has kicked in!

:o)