Getting over an ex

[jibjab]

U have probably already read my moanings about losing my gf...but i need an anser.
She broke up with me and i feel a mixture of resentmaent anger and confusion.

its my first relationship (lasted 2 years)

I am known to jump to conclusions but she has told me she has pulled 1 guy aslready and i am pretty sure shes also seein a guy from work and one of her exes.

I cannot get the image out of my head of her being intimate with somebody else, its really really horrible but i cant get rid of it.

The thing is, how come she can get over me so quickly, yet i am still in shock and in pain?

Does mean that she is the stronger person?

[stylinsam]

no this does not mean that your ex is a stronger person. people have different ways of coping with splitting up for example some people might turn to drink, or binge eating or like your ex just sleeping with any tom dick or harry.

she is probably hurting to, she just doesnt show.

was there a reason why she finished you?

how old r u? (if you dont mind me asking)

obviously this was you first relationship and you probably thnk you will never get over her,

what i suggest you do is try and forget about her go out with your mates maybe meet another girl who will not finish you when she gets bored with you.

you need to find your soulmate and it looks like you r ex isnt the one i no these maybe harsh words for you but you need to get on with you life and stop dwelling on the past.

i hope everything works out for you as you sound like a really nice person

good luck

SSxx

[kipchik]

Not at all,if this girl needs to provoke a reaction out of you by telling you every move she's making,then needing that attention from you and any other guy DOES NOT make her a strong person it in fact makes her a weak and very shallow girl,of course you feel like this but it wont last for ever and the best thing you can do is focus on her bad habits and realise that YOU are the stronger person and that somewhere out there there's a girl for you who will love you for who you are and when you're happy this girl will be a distant memory,for some reason she's just trying to make you jealous,maybe she gets off on it,but don't play her game,move on,good luck xx

[Loosehead]

Just ignore her, she sounds like an attention seeking idiot to me. Just give off hand responses to her statements, eg

Her: "I'm going out with Bill from accounts"

You: "Here's 10p, phone someone who gives a ****"

I know it's hurting at the moment but it sounds to me like you've had a lucky escape. Just think about the next poor sod she shacks up with, that should cheer you up.

[Richie1976]

Take a leaf out of dilf's book and sh*g a few of her friends ;-)

[Champagne]

jibjab, believe me when I say that time is NOT running out for you!! There is somebody out there for everybody and I am sure you will meet someone in the future who will make you look back and wonder what you ever worried about.

People have different reasons for breaking up. You are probably feeling awful because you don't feel you've had proper 'closure'. It's quite a common feeling if your partner walks away when you consider everything to be just peachy.

Give yourself some time and you will get over it. Get out there and flirt in the meantime!

[jno]

resentment and pain are entirely normal. She's the one with problems - by telling you she's pulled already, she's all but admitting your suspicions were correct in the first place. Either that or she's deliberately trying to make you jealous, which is odd behaviour when you've split from someone... she does still seem to care what you think. Whatever, just tell her you're no longer interested and that she should get over it; ignore messages, emails and so on and get on with your own life. You have approximately 50 years of reproductive capacity ahead of you!

[Pippa68]

She can obvioously get over you quicker because it was her that made the decision to break up ~ she already had time to come to terms with it. My guess is that she probably wanted to break up with you anyway, no matter what excuse she has given.

You will get over it ~ In was with my first boyfriend for 3 years & he dumped me for another girl. I was devastated & thought nobody would match him..I was wrong! in fact he got in touch with me a couple of years ago through friends reunited & told me he always regretted splitting up. He is a lonely old fart..tough :o)

Loosehead gives good advice..I wish I had been just as strong back in the day instead of making a complete fool of myself!

[Cockney_si]

just coming up to 24 and time is running out...I must have no chance then.

Pull yourself together man, take up a hobby, go out more with your mates you ignored when you were with her.

No women like blokes that seem to avoid life by always talking about their ex's.

Ever seen the commedy show man stroke woman on BBC2 or BBC3 ? There's a bloke in that who cries all the time, this is an illustration of us weaker folk....

[WendyS]

No, she is not necessarily stronger. but if she's already flaunting another relationship in your face, she definitely nastier and although you're hurting, perhaps you should be grateful that you didn't become permanently attached to her. First relationships always stay in the memory and on looking back from the distance of time, we're able to understand why they didn't work out. I can only suggest that you try and rebuild your life one day at a time without her in the certainly that somebody nicer will come along in due course.