celibacy

[goindoolally]

how long? do you find it easy to cope or not?




oooh it's been a long time.




about 3 years for me now.




though may i say not through choice but circumstance!



don't want a quick fumble



would rather have something meaningful.



I'm female btw.

[goindoolally]

thanks guys, will keep on hoping. I do believe there's someone for everyone.

[Drusilla1S]

Hi, goindoolally. I've been celibate about six months now and I'm loving it. I have found it refreshing to be able to put physical contact with partners to one side for an extended period of time and have had no desire to indulge myself, as yet.
I don't know how long I will feel this way, but I don't want a partner just to fit in with other people's pre-conceptions about adult life and relationships.
It's clear, you have reached a stage where you want more from life and I think you would find it beneficial to get involved in a hobby/sport/activity you truly enjoy in order to meet people with similar interests and hopefully something will develop from there.
I wish you well.

[lady_p_gold]

When you say celibate I am assuming you mean you do not have sex with someone else .... I was wondering about monks and religious people who take vows of celibacy and whether that includes a bit of DIY if you get my drift. I looked up the definition in Chambers and it says "the unmarried state es. as adhered to under a religious vow; abstention from sexual relations. I am not sure whether in the Church it means not having any sexual outlet at all ... that does not seem clear to me from that definition.

[goindoolally]

yes lady_p_gold, you are right in what you assume. As for the other part about the monks & DIY, LOL, I have no idea.

[Maggie-Mae]

Hi goindoolally - I split up with my long term partner two years ago and although Ive been out on dates and not through lack of interest on anyones part, but, I havent had sex for the last two years. Initially it was because I wasnt emotionally ready after splitting from my partner - but now its more out of choice. Like you I dont just want a quick fumble or a one night stand, also dont just want a f*** buddy for meaningless sex. I would like to meet someone, Im not in any hurry, but without trying to sound too profound, I feel like I want to interact with someone on a higher level than just sex. I want a good friendship with someone, spend lots of quality time with them, share new experiences, have a connection with someone - the sex to me would just be secondary. Does that sound weird to anyone????? Im 37 now, have three kids, I dont want a string of failed relationships behind me, I want something more lasting. In any relationship when the lust wears off and the sex becomes less frequent, there needs to be more between two people than just the physical. I went to a party last night, there was a nice guy there, but all he kept going on about was taking me home - he wasnt a bad person but it was just a massive turn off for me, that all he could think about was just sex......am I odd, I dont know! xx