I have four and the youngest is eighteen now.
I agree with Boo.
But I would also ask, can they do what is expected at this age?
If the answer is yes, all good.
If it is no then I would try to think of more questions to ask.
I'm looking back on this post as the precious babe starts big school next week and I just realised I have not thanked you for your contributions which were exactly what I wanted to know
Many thanks to each off ou