I'm so sorry that these events have happened together, CleeMan. That is life - and death I'm afraid. Absolutely terrible for you to cope with, but sometimes it happens like that.
If it is any help at all, we are all here to help as much as we can. If you need to offload, then that's OK, we'll understand. My advice is to gulp and just accept and cope for now, let the sorrow and loss out, scream if you have to. After a pause you will rebuild, but that doesn't lessen the loss you have suffered. I repeat, you have my thoughts (and prayers, if you don't mind that?)