When Does The Pain An Heartache Go Away

[ilovemarkb]

We just had my gorgeous cavalier king charles put to sleep. The pain is unbearable...feel like someones wrenching my heart out...cant stop crying. someone please tell me this pain will ease

[dannyk13]

It will over time, it took me about six months..

[Hopkirk]

Do you plan to get another pet? Looking after the new puppy / kitten helps.

[Mamyalynne]

It will ease, you will smile again - you did what was right for him. Your last act of love.

[wolf63]

I'm sorry to hear about your dog, it gets easier to cope but everybody deals with death differently.

I was much more upset when my dogs and old cat died than when my parents died.

xx

[Islay]

I agree with Hopkirk, we always go out and get a new puppy or kitten, not to forget but to give us something to look forward to.

[woofgang]

This is about people but I think its about all loss
"You want a physicist to speak at your funeral. You want the physicist to talk to your grieving family about the conservation of energy, so they will understand that your energy has not died. You want the physicist to remind your sobbing mother about the first law of thermodynamics; that no energy gets created in the universe, and none is destroyed. You want your mother to know that all your energy, every vibration, every Btu of heat, every wave of every particle that was her beloved child remains with her in this world. You want the physicist to tell your weeping father that amid energies of the cosmos, you gave as good as you got.

And at one point you'd hope that the physicist would step down from the pulpit and walk to your brokenhearted spouse there in the pew and tell him/her that all the photons that ever bounced off your face, all the particles whose paths were interrupted by your smile, by the touch of your hair, hundreds of trillions of particles, have raced off like children, their ways forever changed by you. And as your widow rocks in the arms of a loving family, may the physicist let him/her know that all the photons that bounced from you were gathered in the particle detectors that are her/his eyes, that those photons created within her/him constellations of electromagnetically charged neurons whose energy will go on forever.

And the physicist will remind the congregation of how much of all our energy is given off as heat. There may be a few fanning themselves with their programs as he says it. And he will tell them that the warmth that flowed through you in life is still here, still part of all that we are, even as we who mourn continue the heat of our own lives.

And you'll want the physicist to explain to those who loved you that they need not have faith. Let them know that scientists have measured precisely the conservation of energy and found it accurate, verifiable and consistent across space and time. You can hope your family will examine the evidence and satisfy themselves that the science is sound and that they'll be comforted to know your energy's still around. According to the law of the conservation of energy, not a bit of you is gone; you're just less orderly".

Aaron Freeman

[marval]

|I am sorry to hear of your loss. The pain will go away, but it will take a little time.

Just remember al the good times you had with them.

[rsvp]

Awful to lose a friend hey? It will get better in time though and as grieving is part of the healing process just go ahead and grieve for as long as you feel the need to.

[waterboatman]

It will, slowly. You don't stop loving.

My condolences and sympathy.

[Tashi]

I am so sorry, it will go away given time, just be assured that you did the best thing for him/her, a final act of love, they are at peace now, no suffering, the pain for you will linger but it will ease given time then you will look back on the good times you had together.

[jakep]

I am so sorry for your loss. We lost our fifteen year old Labrador in March. Last week I looked at some photos of her and, for the first time, I did not cry.
Her loss nearly broke me and I have gone back on medication to try and help.
I now feel that my pain is beginning to ease. So, yes, one day yours will too x

[Chipchopper]

The pain will ease, trust me.
I've had dogs, I'd given home to and they loved me back and the old boy I have now isn't getting any younger and has some of the problems that come with age.
Remember the happy times and after a while, maybe think about giving a home to another ?

[grasscarp]

I can understand your pain. I can tell you that yes, it does go away. I could not stop crying as a child when my cat was put down due to a road accident. I realised that I could never go through such a thing again and for the rest of my life never had another pet.

[andy-hughes]

Whenever you care for someone, or something, there is pain at the end of it.At first, that pain is all-consuming, the first thought when you wake, the last thought when you sleep, and it feel like that will never ever change.

But it does. You will weave the loss into your life, the wound will scar over. It will always be there, it just won’t hurt so deeply, or all the time, because that is the nature of grieving.

So know that this endless raw pain will ease, and you will grow used to your loss, and it will not be this strong for ever.

Loving your pet is doing the best for them, and that is what you did when you let your dog go, and if could have talked he would have thanked you for releasing him from his pain.

His pain is over, yours will ease, but as others have said, it takes time.

My sympathy for your loss.

[Puzzled001]

Hi, ilovemarkb, it does heal in time, we had to have our 'friends' 'euthanized' because of 'Leishmaniasis' . We lost 13 at one hit. It is devastating but you will get over it. Just don't jump to replace your 'loved one' take some time and you will find another 'friend'. Bless you for caring,life will pick up. P.

[wildwood]

It has already been said by others ilovemarkb. I have recently lost a very close family member and can confirm.... the grief will get easier over time. Grief is the same, whether for a human as for a much loved pet. I wish you strength.

There is no set time/method of grieving, it is different for everyone.

[Tilly2]

Ilove, write a letter to your dog. tellit about all the things about it that you loved, tell it how much you miss it and love it. Write down all your thoughts and feelings, cry as you write but do it. It will help when you have described all your feelings. Do it as soon as possible. Write it and keep it safe.

One day you will be able to re-read it without tears, believe me. It will get better.

[ilovemarkb]

Thankyou so much to each and everyone of you your answers have eased my pain xxx