I'm Missing My Pets So Much

[pastafreak]

Yesterday I was looking at some old photos of both Caspar and Sally...when they were in their prime. I just started crying...i felt so damn sad not having them here.

On top of that, I sometimes have "flashbacks" of Sammi going after me...then I think of other ways he *might* have been unpredictable.
Mind, I'm ok most of the time, but sometimes I feel a bit overwhelmed. It's been over 3 months... or, only 3 months...

[woofgang]

I understand how you feel, I really do...nothing to add really and three months is no time at all for getting over a bereavement....

[Bobbisox1]

Try another rescue dog, maybe a small one Pasta?

[bednobs]

sorry to hear this Pasta, grief sometimes lives with us like a companion, but some days it just shouts and bangs you over the head and takes your breath away.
Would you get anoter dog do you think?

[pastafreak]

I've been obsessively looking at all the local rescue sites. Not many dogs, and they have so many issues. Or too big....
Some issues I could cope with, like separation anxiety, and mild nervousness. I think I've lost confidence, though everyone I know will tell me I did so well with Sally. I was totally inexperienced...
I'm thinking of just getting a cat or 2 at the moment.

[Apc2604]

Cats need homes just as much as dogs and they are rewarding, but in a different way. I am understanding completely how you feel Pasta. I still miss all the dogs we have had and who have gone, but your experience with Sammi was very sad. You mustn't blame yourself though. Have you thought of adopting an older dog who has lost an elderly owner. There are lots who really need homes, especially now. Or perhaps foster a dog.

[pastafreak]

These are the dogs at a local rescue. Even the smallest couldn't be homed with me...nervous escape artist that needs to be muzzled.

https://www.gablesfarm.org.uk/dogalogue/

I think I might email them with my background/experience. I suspect there may be other dogs/cats not on the site.

[Apc2604]

I don't know what area you live in Pasta. These people might help

https://www.oldies.org.uk/?gclid=CjwKCAjw_Y_8BRBiEiwA5MCBJiwTUEIo_Rc7FrFwTROpDe15MaTtCppdYi09PH2GmRQPFTNEGqLdlRoCzEcQAvD_BwE

[bednobs]

have you tried the cinnamon trust? https://cinnamon.org.uk/

[pastafreak]

I'll have a look at that Apc, thanks.
Bednobs, I've checked Cinnamon Trust a few times...nothing available here. I'll check again.

[wolf63]

I'll take Facebook, Max and Agent Carter - if my Lord, Frankie, agrees.

Take your time Pasta, maybe the perfect hound is just waiting for you. You have plenty of time and patience to help any dog to settle in. Like you, I live in a maisonette and it restricts the type of dog that you could live with.

Good luck

[pastafreak]

Discounting all the greyhounds, I'd take Trixie, Veggie, or Agent Carter. She was eliminated when I met an employee of the rescue and she explained her issues. Poor dog ruined by a puppy farm.

[lankeela]

So sad you won't consider another greyhound - your experience was so unusual for a greyhound that I am sure you would be fine with another - I worked with them and owned them for over fifty years and in all that time I only knew one that I would not trust - some were nervous but not aggressive or unpredictable but the very vast majority were lovely and such easy dogs to live with. Please consider giving another one a chance. Explain your situation and I am sure one of the greyhound rehoming centres would find you a nice little *** that would be ideal for you.

[shoota]

Fancy an (ex) gundog?
Search out 'Gundog Rescue and Rehoming'. They are a little bit below the radar to avoid hassle with antis but they are on F/Book.
Cockers make great little companions...

[allenlondon]

Months? My 'pals' died many years ago, and still the tears come.

Just be happy you were together, and remember those times.

A

[pastafreak]

Allen...I know that only too well. As I said...only 3 months.
When ex and I moved to UK, we brought our stone + big black moggy with us. 6 months in quarantine. He literally hugged us on our first visit...he'd been pining for us according to his keepers. He loved to sit on my shoulder. Never developed road sense...lost him to the road. Almost 30 years later I still mourn him.
Shoota...thanks for that. I'll investigate. Thing is though, I live in a flat...5 minutes from a large park + other walks. Would an ex gun dog adapt?
Lankeela...I know you are right. And I know there are many lovely greyhounds and sighthounds languishing in rescues. See my link to my local rescue yesterday. I do keep wondering WHY poor Sammi had so many issues. I know my ideal would be a small lurcher like my dear Sally. I just need to convince myself it might be right...

[eve1974]

Really it’s ONLY 3 months. Not a lot of time at all so no wonder you still get sad! It’s natural with someone you love. No one wld expect you to be “over” grieving if it were a human .,. And loving a pet is every bit as strong .... sometimes maybe more so as they are totally reliant on you
I’d second what others say and consider a much older doggo .... or CAT. People don’t often want to adopt elderly pets.

Is there a dogs trust near you? That’s where we got one of our boys from.

[eve1974]

Btw I see you not from U.K. originally ... where are you from originally (just curious)

[pastafreak]

Hi eve...I'm from the other side of the pond. Just outside NYC. Been here a loooong time.
There is a for a trust down this way...nothing suitable though.

[jennyjoan]

are you in a position to get a dog from NI?

[pastafreak]

I doubt it jj, as I don't drive.