I'm on methotrexate, it is used for cancer though the dose used for RA is dramatically different, a miniscule dose in comparison and it's a very widely used treatment for RA and, as far as I know, one of the most effective.
The side effects can be unpleasant, it's a matter of getting some kind of a balance between what you can cope with and trying to get the disease under control (as it's not a disease you want running out of control and wreaking havoc). I had problems tolerating sulfasalazine and was taken off hydroxychloroquine too. It's been a long road and methotrexate isn't without its issues but no so bad so far. It can take some trial and error.
It's not easy, the stuff you can't take with it and I've got another groin abscess and the antibiotics my GP wanted to use can increase methotrexate toxicity so am on a lesser strength of those, extra cream to help balance it out, having to put my methotrexate dose down for a week after getting up to the dose my rhumo wants me on, bring blood screening forward etc...
My point is, yes, it can be a faff but the meds (I am just using methotrexate as an example) can be worth it to try and get the condition under control.
Steroids aren't ideal as a long term treatment option.
Can you make an appointment with one of the rhumatology nurses to talk things through with them and maybe come up with some new ideas to speak to the consultant about, other tips for dealing, other experts who might be able to help and details of any local support groups you may also get advice and support from?