17, pregnant, abortion

[extra1234]

If im 17 and fell pregnant not through a lack of protection but because protection failed and i knew i was going to have an abortion, should i tell the guy ive been dating for 6 months about the pregnancy and abortion etc. The thing is i dont want anyone to know ive had an abortion for obvious reasons as kids can be so cruel however i dont know if i fully trust him not to tell anyone. Im scared he will confide in a friend who will then tell someone else etc. Or im scared that when we break up, he will tell people and everyone will find out. What should i do?

[feona]

Its better not to tel him as both you are not that much matured and its is probable that he won't keep this as a secret once you guys are over with your relations. So have an abortion and get over it yourself without involving anyone.

[lotsafun]

if you have already made up your mind on what you want to do then i wouldnt tell him, its your body, your decision, and you dont need the added pressure from someone else. However abortion is hard, very emotionally traumatic and i would advise to you that you do tell someone i.e your parents or best friend to have some support for yourself.

[dave50]

If you are in a relationship knowing it's not going to last then why are you having sex with him in the first place?

[Bbbananas]

Kepp it to yourself. If you have made your decision and are sure of it (it sounds the right one to me), then there is no need to tell him - especially if you don't trust him not to tell others.

As lotsafun says though, it would be helpful for you to confide in a good trusted friend.

[Old_Geezer]

Ultimately it is your decision. Were I a 17 year old who had made my girl pregnant I'd want to know and be very angry if I found out later, but there again I'd hope I'd be the type of guy a girl could trust such that an abortion would not seem necessary and would be allowed to discuss beforehand. I think we can understand if you feel the risks are not something you want to take on though. You know him better than anyone here. Perhaps if you are not interested in discussing the proposed abortion, he may be better off not knowing and getting hurt.

[dave50]

When I was 17 and if my girlfriend had told me she was pregnant but she had an abortion I would have been so relieved as would most boys at that age.