do we need friends, i always end up ducking and diving as i really do like time on my own. its selfish to want them when you just want them so why have them?
It's always a problem. It depends on your friends really. I have had friends who expect you to drop everything for them but won't do the same for you. But I have a very few friends who I will go to the ends of the earth for and I know I can rely on for anything. It's all a matter of finding the right people.
My thing is I was married for 34 years, we spent almost every waking moment together, we had friends of course but were always seen as part of one. When he died the turn out was as I expected amazing, but now they have retreated and in all fairness I understand.
From my view, it is far easier to have friends when you are part of a couple, most of my friends are married with kids...so dont have any time for 'nights out' or girly nights out...the older you get the more difficult it becomes I think to have genuine friends, they are very few and far between.
lol!! i was just thinking the same thing myslef tody queenie. I think that we do, or we would become withdrawn and probally depressed. But everyone is allowedsome time to themslefs, and i'm lucky that all my freiends understand that about me. i would surgest for you to find some new ones if your current friends can't accept that about you. xx
karenmac, I have had the same thing. Someone who you think is your friend and who regularly has major crises which make you always drop everything and run to their side, then when you come down with a serious and prolonged illness, and trouble in your family at the same time, they don't want to know. I suspect that it's because they have to be the centre of attention. Sad for them really. Unfortunately I don't have any true friends at the moment, but I'm hoping that will change :)
I have lots of friends, and one very close one, she is always there for me, as I am for her, we don't love in each other's pockets by any means, and this is why our friendship works really well!...as karen said, it's all about finding the right people!.......
true friends are few and far between.
If they come to your aid when you are in trouble then they deserve respect and are worth considering as true Friends.
I would help them in the same way.
In all my life I have never had friends the way I do now. Not many, but here for each other. I have never been one to gossip or wash dirty linen in public, but it is so nice to know that someone is there who will not be judgemental.
Evening Redman - I am his step mummy - I dog sit him for my neighbour - he is not a year old yet and in the photo he is chewing my Andrex Furry Dog which I use as a door stop. Afterwards I had to sew his nose back on...(:o( - thats the Andrex puppy not the real dog......