ex giving me a headache

[neathgirl]

hi all any help would be greatly appreciated and apologies if ppl dont like personal q's being asked but i would like some honest feedback and thoughts/opinions.  i had been with my ex for a year known her for 5 years and really though that she was the one was different to all previous relationships i had with men (i am bi by the way in case ur getting confused). anyway she broke it off with me a week ago and hadnt heard from her til monday when we just had a little chat and that.  last nite she text me and asked if i felt lonely i didnt reply as i was asleep. this morning i text her see if she was ok and she was sayin she felt down and felt like everyone just picks her up and puts her down whenever they feel like and use her.  felt hurt by that cos i never treated her badly did everything i could to make her happy and be there for her. then she told me that she started seeing a guy last week (bearing in mind we only broke up on the mondayof last week). she finished with me cos she said she was confused bout how she felt bout me that she does love me but she has never been in a rship wi a woman before and she dont think she could be wi a woman in a physical sense.  i accept how she feels regardless of how much it has hurt me but why does she seem to flit back and fore to me telling me her problems sayin that ppl use her (which i never did) can anyone shed sum light wud be greatly appreciated? also how should i handle her in future should i be friendly or not i dont want to be her agony aunt i want to be more than just friends wi her grrrrr relationships and ppl so confusing help please! many thanks

[netibiza]

I'm no expert but I think she is either confused by her sexuality or fighting it.  What can you do ? Be there for her, or move on , who knows how long it'll be, if ever that she comes back to you as you want!!

[Mowbray]

I think you should try and let her figure it out for herself whether she is gay, straight or bi-sexual, as she sounds confused to me.  But try and be there for her if you can.

If sounds to me as though you really love her and you'd do anything to make her happy, but she must work out her sexuality out for herself ;-).

Goodluck!

[neathgirl]

thanks for all the advice/opinions given has helped alot to have other peoples views was kinda thinking the same things as all of u have said but thought i was just too close to the situation to be objective. think all i can do is be there for her when/if she needs me but not allow myself to be walked all over and hurt more.  thanks once again!

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