Rules of Engagement

[buttons]

For all the men out there - before proposing to your wife/finacee did you seek her fathers permission for her hand in marriage?  I know that was the old fashion thing to do but i didnt really think it went on any more, but my boyfriend and i were talking about marriage and he said before we would get engaged he would formally ask my father.  I know my father will absolutly love that to happen and have no objections what so ever.  Any of you men ever had your daughters boyfriend ask you? If so how did it make you feel?

Thanks for taking the time to read

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[lisajane83]

Female answer!!! my man asked my dad and so did my sisters boyfriend it's a sign of respect and it made me really happy that he was able to ask my dad in the first place it's a really nice thing to do and my dad was so chuffed! problem is my mum has a big gob so most people knew when i was asked so i had the fake shocked looks on my mates faces when i told them!!!

i think he should go for it it's a lovely thought that he respects your family. 

[buttons]

thank you lisajane,  i adore the fact that he is willing to do that for me and sincerely hope that my mother doesnt get to me before he does, cause i know much like yours she'll be dying to let the world know!!

[lisajane83]

i know it's a mum thing!!! i hope it all goes according to plan and good luck - keep us informed!!!

[OBonio]

Unfortunately my wife's father had passed away when she was young. If he was alive, I'd have asked him in the traditionaly manner. I asked her mum though in a roundabout manner. I asked my wife first, then after she said yes, I insisted that I asked her mum before telling anyone else.

[buttons]

what a lovely thing to do OBonio, bet she was a proud woman that day

[natalie_1982]

My fella asked asked my dad's permission; my dad was made up and my granddad who was also present, cried.  Even my father had never seen his own father cry before!  It really meant a lot to my dad that my partner would ask him.

Then the next night we went out for a meal and my fiancee got down on one knee in the middle of a packed Italian restaraunt and asked me if I would be his wife.  Ahhhh.......  ;-)

[trionam]

My husband asked my dad, and my dad was delighted he even managed to keep it from my mam,I think its a lovely thing to do and even though it may be old fashioned it makes a Father very happy and I hope other men keep up the tradition.

[silly moo]

I don't think it's old fashioned - just something most well brought up young men do.

[buttons]

no company outing just yet Ned!

But i'll keep you posted!

[buttons]

im glad lots of you think it is a worthwhile thing to do, and i am happy that its what he's considering, and now i just have to sit back and wait for it.  Who knows where, who knows when.  Ooh the anticipation is killling me!!!

[Octavius]

I didn't ask my fiances dad for permission, I had always intended to, but I just wanted the announcement to be a surprise for everybody - and he is useless at keeping secrets!  And I am (or like to think that I am) a well brought up young gentleman.

I proposed at Eilean Doonan castle in Scotland and everyone was delighted.

Looking back, he would have liked me to ask I guess, but it's done now.  Something I will save for my wedding speech!

[nicola_red]

I told my bf that if he asked my dad for permission first I would turn him down on principle.  What on earth has it to do with my dad?  I don't live with him or consult him on any other major decisions - it's my life.  So he didn't!