meeting new people nerves...

[pdust]

I've always been nervous when meeting new people. I even get nervous sometimes going to see people I know (eg... an online friend who i knew for years.. we met up quite a few times but even the last visit i had i was sooooo nervous about it) it doesnt matter if its formal or not, ive gone all over the place by myself to see bands and even though i love the gig scene i was still nervous about everything. I have always had to force myself to go anywhere new though ive usually have had a good time when i got there. About half the time ive had a couple of drinks to take the edge of the nerves but obviously im not going to do that now.... Its not just the place im going and meeting new people, its the getting there and getting back that drives me nuts too...

Anyway Im going to a talk/group type thing and I am a bit nervous. I find it loads easier to chat to new people one on one and in groups i tend to clam up or occasionally rabbit on like a loony. Its in a town im not familiar with, im going on my own, i have worked out how to get there and back but the thought of going through the door when i get there is filling me with horror lol...

is anyone else like this? what do you do to get over the nervousness? I dont wanna go and look a prat stood in a corner with a panic stricken look on my face lol........

[LoftyLottie]

Ooooh, just realised you are now not going!! Don't actually blame you - a lot of effort and money for such a short time and it's cold and wet!!

[Ann]

Best advice is to pause at the door, look at everyone sitting or standing there - SMILE and make a remark about the weather, typical Britishness to talk about the weather so everyone laughs or joins in! Don't forget to smile, people then warm to you. :))

[DTCwordfan]

Don't think you should be drinking,....?

[LoftyLottie]

A glass of wine can relax you and make things much better DT. I can't see any harm in that. I am not suggesting drinking and driving or that you drink over the odds.

[pdust]

im the other way round rocky, ive gotten worse as ive gotten older....

thats a good idea dave ta

hi lottie and thanks... im not too bothered what people think , its more just real shyness. I have a mate like you, she holidays on her own, goes on outings herself, she even goes camping on her own and always meets tons of new people and has a great time... ive never liked wine but i used to have a couple of beers sometimes to calm my nerves but thats a no no now ....

[pdust]

oh i never saw all the answers on this page when i answered lotties post from the last page...

thanks for that ann... i dont know why i am so nervous, i know everyone would be welcoming as its a muslim sisters group and most sisters i have met are like family almost immediately, i also know there was going to be reverts there so there would be other women like me, its flipping stupid when i think about it.

im not deet honest :)

lottie i cant drink now im muslim, but that would have been my solution before :)

[ummmm]

It's like going to the dentist. Only afterwards do you realise it wasn't as bad as you thought x

[LoftyLottie]

Forgot about that pdust. Sorry, should have remembered. Perhaps a couple of cups of tea then!!!! ;o)

[pdust]

oh flip ive been de-avatared!!!

[pdust]

yeah that always happens ummmm

lol lottie no need for sorries x

[Capoolis]

Get some Rescue Remedy from Boots. It works for stressful situations.

[pdust]

thanks capoolis ive heard the name but always thought it was eye drops for the morning after :s

[boxtops]

pix, if you are going to imagine yourself as Marilyn Monroe, just don't do the bit with the white dress and the draught up your jilbab :-)

[pdust]

haha.... oh that made me snort! I was in town just before the weather turned cold with a 'hippy' type skirt on (hope you know what i mean) i hadnt thought to put leggings under and the fabric was light.... the wind blew and whooosh.... thankfully it only blew up as far as my knobbly knees but that was bad enough.....

[pdust]

a sausage? ;)

[albaqwerty]

pixie doesn't and can't have nobbly knees.

Just imagine your interviewers in their undies. Good luck xx

[pdust]

i do alba honest....

ta for that but i darent try it otherwise i would laugh my socks off.... ;)

[snags]

''just walk in, fart really loudly''

Ahhh... memories of our first meet... she was nervous though bless.