Forgiving.

[Smowball]

Over a long girly lunch yesterday we got around to chatting about partners/hubbies as per usual! We were asking each other what we would never ever forgive them for doing. All very different answers, but most of us had a specific thing that we just could not forgive.

So is there anything specific that you ladies(and men!) just wouldnt be able to forgive, or would it entirely depend on the circumstances?

[gness]

I've given this some thought having had the same girlie chats Smo. Would I forgive a one off fling? Yes I think so. There would have been a jolly good reason but I was never faced with that. Serial cheating? No. Lying? As far as I know the few white lies I discovered were, again, for a good reason.
One of the few things I never forgave OH for was cutting down a tree I loved while I was at work. I mentioned it often....even when he was dying.

[Sqad]

trigger.......EXACTLY.........good point. One never forgets but one can easily forgive.

[ummmm]

No, one cannot.

[chrissy847]

Cheating and Violence

[vodkancoke]

Cheating and violence. I have been through both and it will never, ever happen again to me (I hope!)

[emmie]

sqad, it's not resentment that kills it, it's the partner, man or woman who goes off with someone else, then thinks, expects perhaps to be forgiven. You never get that trust back, no matter how hard you try.

[emmie]

sqad, would you forgive your wife if she went off with the tennis coach, had a torrid affair, then came back, if you say yes i would be honestly amazed.

[Sqad]

em....This has happened......was painful, was angry...BUT..she looks good, smells good, keeps a "good house" a good cook...........where does one find such a replacement?

Dating agencies......AB, full of resentment, hate woman/men.

No.....not me.

I have forgiven but not forgotten.....never give it a second thought......nobody is perfect and most people succumb to human failings at some time....don't they?

It's as good a marriage that you will find.

[Psybbo]

If a couple share the blame, forgiving and forgetting should follow. Nobody is perfect

[ummmm]

But what if one of them isn't to blame? Some people do it just because they can.

[emmie]

sqad, well you are a better man than i gunga din. whilst we are about it, i have in my considerably long existence come across many philanderers, and never in my life would i touch one with a barge pole. A very good friend cannot seem to be faithful, what a sad indictment of marriage.

[joeluke]

Not having my tea ready on time

[Sqad]

em

\\\ i have in my considerably long existence come across many philanderers, and never in my life would i touch one with a barge pole. \\\

I respect your opinion....but philanderers have done very well without your co-operation.

[emmie]

so they have, and quite honestly i have often wondered in those moments of quiet solitude quite why they got married in the first place.

[Psybbo]

ummmm, I was thinking of a relationship where both partners had stopped caring about each other.
Cruelty, mental or physical, meanness and of course any hurt to children I could not forgive

[Sqad]

em

\\moments of quiet solitude quite why they got married in the first place.\\

I agree.........I would have thought many a partner in many a marriage have posed that very question.

[emmie]

i am sure you are right.

[mazie]

People sometimes stray, it doesn't always mean they don't love their partner, or would even consider swapping them for someone else. It's a human nature thing. If we do love someone we will forgive them most things, Or we never loved them in the first place.

[slinky.kate]

lying ,stealing,cheating,thats why i am on my own,