Society & Culture1 min ago
The big "M" word?
Just what see what other ABers views on marriage? What are the differences of being married or living with a partner? Is it the "just a piece of paper thing" or is it something more than that??
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.We've been married 12 years,but partners 15 years.Yes,marriage brings legal rights,but,the fact that it is so easy to live with someone nowadays,means that you are taking that extra step if you want to commit your relationship to law.Also,personally,I feel much closer being a mrs.of a mr.and mrs.Agree completely with Peri,Spudqueen and Artful.If you feel ready,go for it!
I'm a bit sour on the whole marriage thing, but maybe that's just because I'm divorced (although now living with my girlfriend (can't use the word 'partner' - just sounds a bit too poncey for my liking) for five years with a 2 year old daughter - no kids from my marriage, thank gawd.
Am not ruling out marriage at some point in the future for two reasons - (1) the legal rights - it is appalling that there are not equal rights just because you don't have a marriage certificate - if we are to call ourselves a civilised society, this MUST change, and (2) so that our daughter will have the same name (although, a friend of ours simply changed her name by deed poll).
If you love somebody enough, a certificate should not be necessary to show it.
As for the wedding itself - and I am only speaking from experience from my wedding, and many many others I have attended (and this is a pretty good reason in my opinion to elope!), the mother of the bride is always, without exception, a right royal pain in the backside.
There is no actual differences between marriage and living together on a day to day basis. But some feel its a show of committment, and some treats it as a legal thing, ie. if you brought a place together, living together, but if the bf or gf dies, the assets doesn't automatically get the stuff etc.
jean88: I was honestly going to post a thread on marriage today also! Guess you read my mind...for some reason, I have been thinking about it a lot lately and wish I could get it OFF my mind....
But, I'm straying off subject...simply put, to me Marriage is two people making a commitment to SHARE their lives with each other. Meaning, two people want to witness and share each others accomplishments, achievements, struggles, experiences....everything! I KNOW I will be elated to get married!!!
(I'm going to start another thread on this subject specifically to ask something about my situation in the Body and Soul section...)
I lived with my now husband for about 2 years before we got wed and was certain I wanted to marry him from almost the beginning.
Marriage is security, knowing you will enjoy a long term relationship with the person that you really love and who loves you, its a union. It goes far beyond a piece of paper and its the best thing I've ever done.