Younger Men!

[Scarlett]

So is it possible for a big age gap to work where the man is younger and the woman is older? The age gap is 26 and 44. What's your opinion?

[boxtops]

Well - that 18 years is more than me and my OH, and we didn't meet until somewhat later in life, but we know it works :-)

[Scarlett]

Is your situation an older woman, Box?

[Sqad]

Extremely unlikely to work...........but it is possible.

In 16years time she will be 60years old and he will be 42 years old.....how does that turn you on.

In a marriage one needs everything going for you AND luck.............an age gap like that offers a poor prognosis.

[boxtops]

Yes, Scarlett, it is.

Sqad - each case has to be taken on its merits :-)

[Scarlett]

Sqad, what would you say if she was 24 and he was 41? Any more likely to work?Is it the thought of having sex with an older woman the thing that makes it seem unlikely to work/last?

[boxtops]

Depends on the woman (and the man), Scarlett :-)

[sherrardk]

My husband is 11 years older than me (we met when I had just turned 19 and he was almost 30, that was nearly 26 years ago).

[Scarlett]

See I'm more inclined to think that an older man will work far better than an older woman. Could be wrong though?!

[ummmm]

If it feels right then go for it....

[Sqad]

Scarlett....you are turning it round.........a young woman and an older man...........is that what you mean?

If so, then the prognosis may well be better and although sex is not the whole story, it is very important. Some 60 and 70 year old women are still good in bed and hence the younger husband would feel satisfied........but don't bank on it.

[Scarlett]

Sqad- my original question is regarding an older woman (44) being with a younger man (26). But I was also wondering whether its not so much the age gap which is a potential problem, but the fact that its the woman who is older. Does that pose more of a problem than if the man was older?

[boxtops]

It's about outlook and attitude, and compatability, rather than age, scarlett. My OH says (he's nice) age is only a number on a bit of paper....

[Sqad]

Scarlett......I understand that.......an 18 year age gap whoever is the older, is certainly going to be an added problem which a marriage does not need.

However,the outlook would be better if it was the male that was the elder........in my opinion.

[B00]

It can work, only problem I could see would be if he wanted children??

[boxtops]

...but not in mine. It depends entirely on the individuals, how fit the older person is, how interested in living, hobbies, mutual interests - and so on.

[Prudie]

Jeez sqad :-)

[boxtops]

B00 - you have to start with that discussion..... and 44 is not too old, my brother was born when my mother was 47....

[Sqad]

Prudie...LOL.....Scarlett is taking about an age gap of just under 20 years......

[boxtops]

Sqad, I'd love to know on what you base your predictions - that the younger woman would care for the older man in older age, but the younger man wouldn't? It's not the way it is these days - I know several women very happy with their long-term younger men, and the younger men are happy too. There is no "mould".

[Sqad]

boxy.......based on my experiences...........as you base you comments on yours.

An older man is more likely to get looked after better, by his younger wife......than an older women looked after by her younger husband.