\\\\\\ i haven't had a cuddle for years, i feel discussed with myself for allowing this really as we have 2 young school age children and think he is just with me for the children. but i need love and someone to care about me, i have so much to give but he just doesn't seem interested so i struggle to now show anything to him.\\\
This is a far commoner situation for both males and females of a relationship, than one would imagine, in my opinion.
You have to decide which is the better, leave him or accept the status quo, which many "together couples" have to endure.
As for the lack of physical contact, you may have to consider taking a lover.
Don't despair, many couples are making the best of a "bad job".....just weigh up the options and then make a decision.