Am I Wrong To Be Very Irritated At This?

[RATTER15]

Working in Care Homes, especially in the field of Dementia I often find that families, usually sons and daughters don't visit their parents once the dementia progresses.

The reason I usually get is: that isn't my mum, that's isn't my Dad!! It really winds me up!!

I want to say: yes it bloody well is, you may not have any desire to visit them but how about the need they may have to see their daughter or son!

I know that some times they may not recognise their son or daughter but even if they don't it usually still registers that it is a familiar and close friendly person.

We have a lady only in her mid 60s, now very close to being in a vegetative state due to her dementia but we can still get a limited response from her. Her Son regularly comes to the home to bring things for his mother and pay the bills etc. but will never come into the home for fear of seeing his mother that he claims to love.

Of course I can accept it is very difficult but I really think that with help they could deal with it for the sake of their loved ones.

These people need their families now more than ever but they are frequently just shut away and never seen by their families again.

It really winds me up, am I wrong or should I be more understanding?

[RATTER15]

Another video to stir the emotions a little.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fyZQf0p73QM

[anneasquith]

RATTER, therapy ? you cheeky wee devil. are you just back from church ?

[pixie373]

They should be showing these videos in schools. You have similar on training courses, but many people would find them helpful, who aren't professional carers.