Telling Your Wife/girlfriend They Are Fat

[dave50]

Have any of you chaps out there ever plucked up the courage to tell your wife/girlfriend that they have put on a bit of weight lately or need to loose a few pounds or even tell them they are fat? If so what was the reaction and did you live to tell the tale? If you are wondering, no I am not about say any such thing to my wife but I know someone who did drop a hint that his wife was getting podgy, didn't go down too well.

[Scarlett]

Mamya- no worries! It was Sqad who was impressed by someone for being Thon with big knockers, and I am very used to men - male friends- being impressed by women purely because of what they look like. This is why I don't spend much time concerning myself with them and just get on with having fun!

[trt]

No that's very cruel. best bet is to buy a dress for her birthday, 2 sizes below the size she is!

[Mamyalynne]

Scarlett,you do right too - the best way to be.x

[tamborine]

My gaffer wouldnt dare, he'd be sat on and squished.

[Brinjal]

My daughter had a boyfriend who told the 5'9 skinny personal trainer that she needed to lose some weight. It did not draw a favourable reaction but when he then added that she should dye her red hair blonde and wear more makeup to cover her freckles he was after a two year relationship dumped before the sentence was cold.

[albaqwerty]

gawd, Brinjal, I hope he limped away whilst clutching his nether-regions !!

[Brinjal]

I think he did Alba.

[2sp_]

On a similar vein, I have a very good friend who cannot keep weight on for health reasons. She is painfully thin and wants nothing more than to put some meat on.

Yet, people think it's ok to say to her that she is getting far too thin, that she really needs to beef up.

She knows this! It really hurts her when people comment.

Why say things that are more than likely to upset or offend?

[Scarlett]

I never make comments about peoples' appearance- good or bad. When I see my friend after 6 months of her being abroad, I don't say she looks fat or thin, tanned or light, healthy or ill. I don't say if I like her hair, her dress or her bag. I really don't notice these things- I just see the person. My Mum is weight obsessed and she recently congratulated someone she knew in the supermarket for losing lots of weight- and he told her he has terminal cancer. Really- who cares what someone looks like?! If you love them, you love THEM, not the package they have arrived in.

[harrylggy]

My girlfriend is not so fat. So I don't need to tell her to that she is fat . She maintains her body weight and I like her so much for this reason .