This Will Make Me Sound Awful And I Probably Am....

[Mosaic]

I just discovered by cybersleuthing that a boyfreind who was truly vile to me, decades ago, died a few years back of cancer. I apologise to the world, but I am happy. He was exploitative, manipulative, self-pitying, self-obsessed and remorseless.

but not any more. Oh happy day!
yes, i am indeed a very bad person. Feel free to judge.

[Mosaic]

not for a minute Gness

[shaneystar2]

I can understand how you feel .A chap I was engaged to many years ago died recently .It was in the local paper .He was violent towards me .We split up pdq after he hit me and he married someone else .Perhaps he didn't feel so violent towards her .I'll never know and I really couldn't be bothered to find out .Water under the bridge ....life goes on .

[anneasquith]

it may not be our own making, but when you stop hating and get on with what is important in life it can be very liberating. and we become healthier for it, when someone dies as in the op. will the hatred be gone ?

[Daffy6543]

My daughter lives in flats and she is above an evil old witch of a woman, said woman has just been carted off in an ambulance and my daughter and I are not in the least bit sad about it.
Some people just don't deserve sympathy in my opinion.

[Daffy6543]

anneasquith, if you have never been treated very badly by someone you really can't say what you would or wouldn't do if they died. When my mum died in February I laughed and was very happy about it :)

[Mosaic]

personally i believe the notion of romantic love has damaged many people and relationships.
Blood or proximity are not meaningful. Actions are.

[-Talbot-]

He was exploitative, manipulative, self-pitying, self-obsessed and remorseless.


But I bet he loved his mum and was kind to animals.
Mosaic, ooh you are awful (said with a Dick Emery voice)

[anneasquith]

daffy,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,you know nothing about my life ( with all due respect )

[Mosaic]

ooh Talbot, varder the eek on you!

[gness]

Wow, Anne...how to answer.....I hated the man who sexually abused me.... I went to his funeral to see him go through the curtains.....

Do I hate him still? Of course I do...nothing can change what happened to make me not hate him.....

An important part of my life?....Well yes....it had long lasting effects so I suppose it will always be with me......

I have, I think, dealt with it well.....but I guess there will always be that little bit of me that can never be liberated from him and what he did....so I can never not hate......that will never be gone......x

[Mosaic]

Re Anneasquith's point: I think you need to have been treated so badly and to have survived, to understand the jubilation. i didn't allow this to flaw my future but I remembered the actions. The hate did not flaw my present life but i am jubilant. I am clearly a very bad person.

teeheeeheee.

Stoppit now moses.

[Mosaic]

Gness, I believe i know our motto

Living well is the best revenge

Oh I live very well

[Prudie]

I've hated a couple of people in my life and certainly wished them something horrible. I'm not sure how I'd feel if it actually happened though. At least you have some relief Mosaic.

[anneasquith]

mosaic,,,,,,,,,,,,, I am not judging you or indeed anyone on this thread,

[gness]

That will do for a motto for me, Mosaic...if I can add...happily to the well...x

[jakep]

There is someone still on the planet who did me severe physical and emotional harm. It has clouded my life and subsequent relationships.
For those of you who can move on, all well and good. Others of us cannot completely.
I wish this person pain and suffering and would be relieved if I heard of his demise. I do not consider myself a bad person because of this.

[Mosaic]

yay jakep. let's me an you get a T shirt printed.
It took me a lot to actually type the effer's name into the url and I'm a little few years off draing a pension.
So hang on in there, carry on being the wonderful you and in all likelihood the 197 from stockport to manchester (or equivalent mechanism of fate) will complete the rest.

[Psybbo]

Hmm I can think of one or two, doesn't bother but I wouldn't mourn their passing. You had a lucky escape, Mosaic, enjoy.

[gness]

Completely is the right word, Jake...and sometimes there are things you can't move on from....

The man I hate was an amatuer photographer....I was a child and he took photographs.....did anyone else see those photographs...I don't know...

But to this day I hate having my photo taken.....it triggers a memory as do other things so moving on isn't always as easy as some think....x

[nailit]

Mosaic, Ive had some horrendous relationships in the past and can absolutly empathise with you. My 1st girlfriend left me for another woman. Others have cheated with me with my friends and my last relationship ended so unexpectionaly I had a breakdown.
Must admit, from a human perspective ive been happy to hear of ex's lives going wrong but I'd never wish death on anyone. But ive never been in your shoes so I would say if it makes you happy.....
Personally, I would feel sad at the death of someone I once loved. It says more about me than the deceased. (as in I CHOOSE to have a relationship with them)