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Jealousy?
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When I was 18 and at uni I had a special male friend who would come and visit me in my room- we'd talk philosophy through the night. I was very flattered by this and hoped it might become more than platonic over time. Then one day my friend Gill stopped by as my male friend was visiting. I sat and watched her flirt and giggle and preen and flatter him. The next day they were going out, I lost him as a friend and that was that. 30 years on I have a special male friend who I do everything with- hope it might become something more; and my lodger is now doing the same thing- giggling, flirting, being tactile. I want to punch her. He, of course, loves the attention and probably fancies her a lot more than he does me. I am not proud of the jealousy I feel. Any thoughts on what I should do?
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I think you're going to have to accept that when you have a platonic relationship with someone that you haven't moved forward to turn into a sexual relationship, it will remain just that - platonic. And if they find a sexual partner, they will want to spend more time with them than with you.
That's life I'm afraid.
If you want your relationship with your flatmate to become more than platonic, make a move and see what happens, otherwise yes, he will find other people who are flirting with him a green light as he has no ties to you other than as friends.
If you don't want to make that move, try to be happy for him if and when he finds a soul mate.
That's life I'm afraid.
If you want your relationship with your flatmate to become more than platonic, make a move and see what happens, otherwise yes, he will find other people who are flirting with him a green light as he has no ties to you other than as friends.
If you don't want to make that move, try to be happy for him if and when he finds a soul mate.
SEX........women always under estimate the importance of sex to a man.
Male 1.....platonic and you lost him.
Male 2.....platonic and you will lose him too.
Platonic relationships with no physical sex are just going to be that...platonic.
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Instigate sexual advances...........you have nothing to lose.
Male 1.....platonic and you lost him.
Male 2.....platonic and you will lose him too.
Platonic relationships with no physical sex are just going to be that...platonic.
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Instigate sexual advances...........you have nothing to lose.
Dress, both clothes and underwear is important......blouse and skirt ( blouse showing some cleft) smart skirt depending upon your age and shape.....flared or tight.
Underwear......again, important as is perfume, hair do and make up.
Make an effort and let it be seen that you are making an effort.
I don't know your circumstances, but, dinner for two at an up market restaurant....chatting....wine....then YOU flirt with him. Back to your place and remember, it is difficult to make a pass sitting down. Standing up , looking out of the window or looking at a picture on the wall and then.....stroke his neck.
Kissing is SO important as foreplay.
Good luck.
Underwear......again, important as is perfume, hair do and make up.
Make an effort and let it be seen that you are making an effort.
I don't know your circumstances, but, dinner for two at an up market restaurant....chatting....wine....then YOU flirt with him. Back to your place and remember, it is difficult to make a pass sitting down. Standing up , looking out of the window or looking at a picture on the wall and then.....stroke his neck.
Kissing is SO important as foreplay.
Good luck.
Platonic relationships are tricky.
Usually, it is the guy who has unrequited feelings, and often can ruin things.
But whichever side of the equation is tipping, you have to be very careful.
You need to be reasonably sure that your intended is likely to feel the same way - because whichever it goes, it's going to change your relationship.
Either you will proceed as a couple, you may continue as friends, but it will never be quite the same again, or it may split your friendship up.
It is easier for a woman making the move because women have the ability to see what is there, as opposed to what they would like to be there, which is what men see, and get wrong most of the time.
So, decision time.
If you don't want to lose him as a friend, then learn to live with the fact that he will see other girls as partners, and not you.
If you think you have a chance, make a move and see what happens.
A final word of caution - either he thinks you wouldn't fancy him, and he will be thrilled to find you feel the same way or, and this is the hard bit -
he hasn't made a move because he only sees you as a friend, and is comfortable with the way things are.
Good luck.
Usually, it is the guy who has unrequited feelings, and often can ruin things.
But whichever side of the equation is tipping, you have to be very careful.
You need to be reasonably sure that your intended is likely to feel the same way - because whichever it goes, it's going to change your relationship.
Either you will proceed as a couple, you may continue as friends, but it will never be quite the same again, or it may split your friendship up.
It is easier for a woman making the move because women have the ability to see what is there, as opposed to what they would like to be there, which is what men see, and get wrong most of the time.
So, decision time.
If you don't want to lose him as a friend, then learn to live with the fact that he will see other girls as partners, and not you.
If you think you have a chance, make a move and see what happens.
A final word of caution - either he thinks you wouldn't fancy him, and he will be thrilled to find you feel the same way or, and this is the hard bit -
he hasn't made a move because he only sees you as a friend, and is comfortable with the way things are.
Good luck.
