Support

[ellen_16]

I always seem to be the friend that offers support. I mean, they all have boyfriends; long term relationships etc. and if anything happens in that relationship I sort it out. I dont have a boyfriend but at the weekend i got quite close to a boy (Michael). Whenever I talk about him they seem to just be like 'yeah. ok. whatever' kind of thing i dont understand it feels like im not appreciated.

[GavC]

It sound like your friends have got so used to you being the underdog, their support that they dont apprecaite that you may have a life as well.   Try talking to them and explain how you feel.  You deserve the same amount of attention as you gave to them.

[Scarlett]

Sounds to me like you need to find some different sort of friends. Can I recommend Cancerians??!!! They are always SO supportive and sympathetic and interested in your problems and views, they are such lovely people! I have 3 close cancerian friends and they are just the best!

[joko]

maybe they feel that as you only met him about 2 days ago, it can't be serious yet and doesn't warrant hours of going on about him yet - you barely know him.

if you had been with him longer and actually had a problem with him they would probably be more supportive.

They may be worried you are setting yourself up for a fall

[Hermia]

I think young women do sometimes form these friendship groups where there will be one girl who is the underdog to make the rest feel important. I was a shy teenager and I certainly remember it happening to me (and others too). I know the other girls didn't like it when I became more confident. I work with a group of 22 year olds who share a flat and are best friends. There are all popular and gorgeous, except one who is fat and plain. Her role seems to mainly consist of being a shoulder to cry on when they get dumped, saying "ooh, you look wonderful in that dress" and listening to their stories for hours on end. I often wonder how the other girls would react if she lost weight or got a gorgeous boyfriend.

I think you should stand up for yourself and show you won't be taken for granted. As GavC suggests you should talk to them - maybe they didn't realise how you felt. If you don't have many friends outside this group it might be good to make some so that they realise that you don't need them.