Do You Think This Girl Likes Me? I Like Her.

[i-am_anonymous]

I like this girl and we have a lot in common. We both are home schooled, go to the same church, go to the same youth group at our church. The only thing is I am an introvert, she is social. She will sometimes complement me, say my name, say Hey or Hi, ask how my day is, offer to help me with dishes at youth group, say bye when I leave the place she is. We both help out at our church AWANA and one time when we were helping the kids remember their bible verses and she sat near the place where I usually sit. Then the kid she was helping came to me and asked what the date was. I then told him and then looked at her and she smiled and silently said "Thank you". Do you think she likes me? I want to complement her but don't know what to say and don't want to say anything wrong. I can't take her out for a coffee or a date or anything because we don't drive. We are high school age. I just want to know if you think she likes me. How do I tell her I like her? Do I send her a message? I know her older sister and we are sportive friends too and I trust her. Do I ask her if she thinks her sister likes me?

[Peter Pedant]

// one time when we were helping the kids remember their bible verses //
excellent
you have something in common
some other thing I mean

little children love one another

or if the New Testament is too er new then
Onan knew that the child would not be his; so whenever he slept with his brother’s wife, he spilled his semen on the ground to keep from providing offspring for his brother
Gen 38 18

you need to tell her that it is her duty under God to prevent this happening er again !

[Old_Geezer]

Be honest. What do you like about her ?
(Probably best to avoid physical attributes, well nice eyes, cute nose, might be ok.)

[Peter Pedant]

// she sat near the place where I usually sit. //
and you spent the next week convulsively cleaning it - er both places

or do I send her a message?
no just send her one of the knickers you have worked out in... - she will know what you mean

//what do you like about her ?//sweet jolly wise old geezer
Jeez old geezer do you remember being young?
what do you THINK he likes about her ?

[i-am_anonymous]

Thanks @Old_Geezer

[beso]

She sent someone over to ask "What's the date." Durr. Don't you get the hint?

She is certainly curious but she won't wait forever so get started. She wouldn't know if she really likes you because you haven't really given her much of a chance to get to know you. It certainly would help if you would just be you.

Try to remember she will probably just be the first in a series of girls/women you meet in your life. It isn't like you are asking her to get married.

Stop freaking out and try to be a normal as you can. It is like this for everyone at first. You have to take a risk and start somewhere or you will end up seriously weird because you are way overthinking it.

Forget about dreaming up how to make compliments because they would come out weird. Genuine spontaneous compliments will come out automatically at the right moments if you just relax. And one genuine compliment is worth way more than a hundred trite lines.

You probably will say the wrong thing at some point, especially if you panic about saying the wrong thing. The bigger deal you make of this in your head the more likely you will say something dumb. It happens like that. Just laugh and say how "that didn't come out right".

Ask her simple things about herself. And above all, listen to what she is saying instead of worrying what you are going to say. That is how you start to get to know someone. And remember, she will be probably just as nervous as you.

Look at what she is doing. She is sitting where you will be. So you could try doing the same sometimes. Don't rush. Hang out together a bit. If all is going well after a while and you are getting to know what she likes to do you could ask her if you could do something you both like together.

Remember to keep breathing and don't act desperate. Smile and enjoy her company.

Best of luck.

[i-am_anonymous]

Thanks @beso

[Georgiesmum]

Next time you see her just say to her "You look nice today" and take it from there.

[beso]

Hey i-am_anonymous:

We would all love to hear how you went. I would be really disappointed if you haven't given it your best shot. These are the kinds of things that if you don't do it, you will wonder "what if" for the rest of you life.

There was a girl I really liked in school but I never took the chance. More than forty years later I'm happy with how my life went but I really do wish we could have had a different memory of each other. I know I could have been a better person had she been more a part of my life.

The really sad thing is that once I had experienced relationships, I realised that she did like me a whole lot. But I can't do anything about how she must have remembered me as a strange guy who actually ended up hurting her.

I was too scared but of course she never knew that. I gave her nothing of myself. She would have just thought I didn't care and I know she deserved a whole lot better than that.

This is on the short list of my life's greatest regrets. Please don't put something like that on yours.

[i-am_anonymous]

Thanks guys! I haven't had the chance to talk to here yet, but I am going to try what @spathiphyllum said, Because I just want to take it one step at a time.

[tonyav]

Best of luck, young man.

[i-am_anonymous]

Thanks @tonyav