Ginger Hair

[Spungle]

Would you research whether your partner had ginger "genes" before beginning a long-term relationship with them?

I ask the question because a lot of ginger children suffer low self-esteem due to bullying etc, and, the reality is, going through life with ginger hair can be a distinct disadvantage to many people. In some countries, such as Denmark, they turn away ginger-haired donors due to a lack of demand.

When planning a family, is this something you would take into consideration?

[woofgang]

where's your research showing that ginger children are more likely to suffer from low self esteem because of their hair colour?

[Prudie]

Absolutely not - I'd worry more if they had 'thick' genes. I don't get it, most women, me included, have dyed their hair red at least once in their life. Gingers weren't a target when I was at school - it's a new thing.

[Sqad]

Ron 11.50.....sorry i don't think that it is a "load of Rollacks"

Spungle clearly wants what she thinks is best for her future children and red hair seems to bother her..........that seems reasonable to me.
The couples of yesteryear would meet, fall in love, have children and take what came..........there is now a different attitude. marriage is less popular and sex is not confined to the betroths, having sex out of marriage, children out of marriage and women wanting to follow a career as well as being a mother. Many women want children, but not necessarily a long monandrous (?sp) relationship but would be interested in the ......."designer baby". This concept has been around for many years, but is now becoming a reality. A designer baby, designer sexual relationship and a designer life style.

"rollacks" is a bit harsh on the OPer.

[queenofmean]

My dad had ginger hair - never bothered him. Every second generation in his side of the family has had ginger hair. I’ve accepted my children most likely will have ginger hair and it doesn’t bother me.

Hair colour shouldn’t matter. It’s what you do that’s important.

[Mamyalynne]

It isn't something that would ever cross my mind.

However if that is how you wish to plan ahead ,do so - there are no guarantees you'll get what you wish for.

Happy and healthy is hopefully the outcome, then a parent's job begins - to inspire confidence and teach how to approach life.

Ginger/Red hair is divine.

[jno]

ginger-haired donors of what? Have they been trying to donate to hair banks for the poor?

[alavahalf]

When you go on your dating site to choose your partner .. on the page where you select preferences ... I 'm sure you will be able to select hair colour ?

[Bazile]

//When planning a family, is this something you would take into consideration? //

Well , if your'e planning a family , that means you've decided to have a family - so why would the possibility of a ginger haired offspring be something to take into consideration ?

[Sqad]

I think we are all on the wrong track here our answers based on our own, possibly outdated, experiences and ingrained values.

Spungle, I would guess is a youngish questioner and her attitudes are slightly different as are her expectations and needs.

[Mamyalynne]

Not all Sqad , I purposely worded my reply about planning ahead, as you say something most of us never had occasion to even consider.

There are still no guarantees and you still have to do the parenting.

[Sqad]

Mamy....right ....LOL^^^^

[Mamyalynne]

LOL, erm OK

[Hopkirk]

When our children were born I wasn't even bothered what sex they were, just so long as they were healthy.

[pastafreak]

Unfortunately, I'm grey now. But there are still hints of the deep auburn I was...as were my brother and sister. I've always been proud of my hair...yes, I did get teased. Got called carrot top and ketchup head...;-)) That was in the States...where there doesn't seem to be the stigma or prejudice there is here. So, no it's not something id take into consideration. Researching someone's genes is not what relationships should be about.

[marval]

My hair is grey/white now, but my sister and I were both red heads. That came from my mother's family, If I would have had children, what colour their hair was wouldn't matter at all. My mother was called carrots at school, we had no name calling.

[pixie374]

Everyone in my family has red or blond hair or a mixture, except my granddaughter. There doesn't seem to be any relation to confidence at all.

[murraymints]

would not give 2 hoots ..purple hair..green skin..what on earth does it matter...if you love someone...

[ummmm]

It doesn't matter Minty....Not only do they have a lovely hair colour they also tend to have unusual eyes. All the gingers in my family, including my OH, have hazel eyes, they change colour daily.

When we go on holiday and it's sunny 90% of the time his eyes are green. When it's wet a grey here they are mostly light brown sometimes with a hint of blue.

He always wears factor 50 and sits in the shade :-D

[murraymints]

nephew has the most beautiful copper hair..so envious !!