Finding Peace Of Mind

[naomi24]

This question is prompted by a discussion on another thread. It’s said that good physical health is the most important thing in life but in my opinion peace of mind is far more valuable. From the previous discussion, God doesn’t appear to be the answer so the question is, how do people accept that life does what it does and people are what they are without allowing the negativity that all of that can bring to dominate their thoughts, thereby destroying their peace of mind?

[rowanwitch]

Accepting pain is part of it , when pain is caused by something so terrible its not a case of not feeling it it is accepting it is right and proper and part of your life. It's not allowing a sense of anger and bitterness to colour sadness. I grieve every day for Dave, but it is sadness, I could say it is cruel and unfair but that wouldn't change things. That's the difference.

[vetuste_ennemi]

That's a yes from me, Rowan.

[Zacs-Master]

Ever thought of going into counselling, Rowan? ;-)

[vetuste_ennemi]

Havbe you ever conducted Stockhausen Sir Thomas?

No, but I once trod in it.

[naomi24]

Acceptance is the key - that's a given - but if you look at the OP you'll find the question is how is that achieved?

[Zacs-Master]

By realising that your grief/sadness doesn’t change things, as rowan has said.

[Tilly2]

This is one person's answer.


The Peace of Wild Things.

When despair for the world grows in me
and I wake in the night at the least sound
in fear of what my life and my children’s lives may be,
I go and lie down where the wood drake
rests in his beauty on the water, and the great heron feeds.
I come into the peace of wild things
who do not tax their lives with forethought
of grief. I come into the presence of still water.
And I feel above me the day-blind stars
waiting with their light. For a time
I rest in the grace of the world, and am free.
Wendell Berry

[naomi24]

Yes, that's a given too ... but it's easier said than done. From the OP:

//how do people accept that life does what it does and people are what they are without allowing the negativity that all of that can bring to dominate their thoughts//

... the operative word being 'how?' It's those blasted niggles!

[naomi24]

^That to zacs.

That's lovely Tilly. If only ....

[rowanwitch]

Did the first stage course, then realised my warped world view would get in the way. I have thought about it since.

[Zacs-Master]

It is easier said than done, you’re right. And easier for some than others. But it’s a good ethos to strive for.

[rowanwitch]

Naomi,you are one of life's campaigners, maybe you still want to change the world. One key thing though is to sit down and think where your energy and intelligence can do the most good. You are wasting it debating with the converted on here. For you I suspect peace of mind will come from focus . The accepting the other stuff will happen when you are ready for it. Niggles are just that, either deal with them there and then or discard them. If you keep putting them in lifes handbag eventually you will no longer be able to carry it.

[vetuste_ennemi]

//If you keep putting them in lifes handbag eventually you will no longer be able to carry it//

Poor Naomi being described as a bag lady.

(Personally I'd sue)

[Zacs-Master]

‘You are wasting it debating with the converted on here’

I’ve been telling her that for years, rowan.

I’ve invited her to run away with me a few times to a little cottage by the sea, where we can ‘debate’ the worlds wrongs and have massive arguments and then enjoy the making up. I think she was quite tempted. ;-)

[naomi24]

Rowan, this isn't about me. This question arose from someone else's post. I deal with life. I don't have a problem.

[naomi24]

Zacs, ooo ... you are a one! ;o)

[Zacs-Master]

(See, I told you she was tempted).

[naomi24]

:o)

[Zacs-Master]

Mwwwah. ;-)