Unhappy Feeling

[sunny-dave]

I'm not a big one for introspection - but today I'm feeling decidedly maudlin.

Not for myself, but because I'm now exactly the same age that my Dad was when he died.

Comparing my happiness (and the future I hope to have in front of me) with his struggle with continual ill-health and then an early death has made me sad - he (and my Mum) must have felt cheated of the retirement they'd worked for.

I'll be fine tomorrow - but right now I'm stuck in a brown study ...

SDx

[naomi24]

//I don't understand this AB obsession with doom and gloom. //

Neither do I, sqad.

[Peter Pedant]

yikes there are some young parental deaths here ....

on a technical note - average your parents ages of death( two parents so you add the ages at death and halve it)
and you are more likely to live to that age than any other indicator
race - cholesterol value - sportiness - smoking - etc

Mine was 78 - and so I was a bit shocked to be told at 47 that I had a 50% chance of living until I was 50. ( ca colon first cancer )

[andres]

Sqad--You beat me to it. I never dwell on death dates . I just remember people when they were living. Can't see the point in sinking into a depressive state.

[Peter Pedant]

oh and then I said ( it was twenty y ago)
can I retire
and they said no of course not - you have to work until you drop

[Peter Pedant]

//I don't understand this AB obsession with doom and gloom. // Neither do I, sqad.

well get off this thread ! both of you - go! go !

[Tilly2]

I have an aunt who was convinced that she was going to die when she was sixty because her parents, a brother and a sister (my mum) all died when they were sixty.

She was convinced that she too would not live beyond her sixtieth year. She is now eighty two and has got over it. :-)

[naomi24]

I remember when people I care about died - but I don't wallow in misery over it.

[Theland]

Depression is real. Don't we try to help each other?
Not an obsession, just caring, and realising not everybody is unaffected by the troubles of this life.

[Mamyalynne]

It would only be dwelling on gloom if you let it carry on, but to experience fleeting sad thoughts is but human.

[Eleena]

dave, where's your sunny gone x You have empathy for your father's struggle and early death and what he ... and your dear mum! missed out on. You sound grateful for where you're at and what the future holds. There's a lot of reflection as we get older. I hope your mood soon lifts.

[Jordyboy9]

I will be 82 in July my father died 54 my mother 66 my oldest sister died 3weeks ago aged 97,so take the first number half it and then forget the answer.

[naomi24]

Theland, very few are unaffected by troubles in life. Some of us just don't make a public fuss about it.

[Mamyalynne]

I wasn't referring to depression in my last reply, depression is a different beast altogether than an occasional sad thought.

[Eleena]

I'm sorry to hear that jordy.

[Peter Pedant]

// No, there is nobody's death or anniversary that effects my psyche.//
er your own ?

o god we had one senior registrar Chris Frieth ( 1973) who walked into the Brom and said he was having a heart attack. Matron [they had them then] said get behind those curtain and take your clothes off !
and when they checked if he had or not - - - he was DEAD!

He was 45 and his parents had died in their forties

[douglas9401]

I think we have another goer.

[Peter Pedant]

// depression is a different beast altogether//

er sorry depression has a measurable death rate

[Jordyboy9]

Not so sunny Dave go and play your sadoko and cheer up ,play a dean Martin song,

[wolf63]

PP

// depression is a different beast altogether//

er sorry depression has a measurable death rate//

Life has a 100% death rate.

Some dread death some don't (although I wouldn't go as far as to say that they look forwards to it).