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Don't know how I'm going to get through it, daughter still not speaking to me after my granddaughter died when I was supposed to be looking after her
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.Oh Traci, I don't know what to be saying to you, your daughter (all of you) are grieving and you need to believe it was not your fault, or hers. I can only say my heart goes out to you and in time, I hope both you and your daughter can understand that this is not anyone's fault. xxxx It's going to be so hard for you all, my thoughts are with you
Oh Traci, I cannot begin to imagine the depth of your anguish and pain.
In time your daughter will come to realise that this was just a tragedy of natural causes and in no way a derelection of dutiful care or negligence on your part. Her pain cannot be measured or quantified and she hasn't got it within her right now to accept or process what has happened.
Grief is the price we pay for love.
Thinking of you xxx
In time your daughter will come to realise that this was just a tragedy of natural causes and in no way a derelection of dutiful care or negligence on your part. Her pain cannot be measured or quantified and she hasn't got it within her right now to accept or process what has happened.
Grief is the price we pay for love.
Thinking of you xxx
I promise you, your daughter will realise your double grief in time.
Losing your granddaughter and your daughter lashing out to find ANYBODY to blame, sadly it is you.
Hang in there, one day soon your daughter will fall into your arms and sob her heart out, and you will grieve together.
It will happen, believe me.
Losing your granddaughter and your daughter lashing out to find ANYBODY to blame, sadly it is you.
Hang in there, one day soon your daughter will fall into your arms and sob her heart out, and you will grieve together.
It will happen, believe me.
Traci, baby Harley-Rae was fighting from the very day she was born, you were so excited and so caring, you wanted to shout it from the rooftops even though she was premature and had a little battle - please find the strength to let go of those harsh words from your daughter who is in a very dark place right now and has to lash out, always hurt the ones we love, at some point you both will hopefully be able to talk about that night you cared for Baby Hayley-Rae and understand that it was just a fight she couldn't keep up. For the short time she was with you all, she left you with lovely moments and her birth united your family more, don't let her passing legacy be a loving grand mother and her daughter at loggerheads xx
Traci, folk/family will be looking to flay outwards and apportion blame - it's only natural as they are looking for rational explanations.
Keep talking to your daughter, your friends or, worst case, us......the truth will surface in time - maybe not now, nor in the next week, nor the next month, but at some time....be prepared to forgive some pretty nasty comments/accusations...it won't be easy.
Keep talking to your daughter, your friends or, worst case, us......the truth will surface in time - maybe not now, nor in the next week, nor the next month, but at some time....be prepared to forgive some pretty nasty comments/accusations...it won't be easy.