My Mum Passed Away

[phleb]

I'm finding it so hard. I feel so guilty. I want her back. She was my world. I miss her.

[chrissa1]

So sorry to hear this, phleb. :(

[shoota]

It is hard phleb, but time heals. It is something we all go through, there is no need for guilt.

[Theland]

When was this? Nothing worse losing a Mum. Lost mine in 1993 aged only 68. Often think of her still.
My condolences to you. It takes time.

[Mozz71]

My sympathy to you and your family Phleb.

[Old_Geezer]

Surely you have nothing to feel guilty about.
My commiserations.

[phleb]

25th July. I had been posting on here that day about my mums health. She left us at 8pm that day. I feel angry, guilty lost, unwell

[Sam1960]

So sorry to hear your news phleb. My thoughts are with you, and your family.

[Mamyalynne]

Oh Phleb, I am so sorry -all of those feelings are natural but no less horrible to go through.

There will come a time when you can delve back through happy memories and smile again but give yourself time. ((X))

[jennyjoan]

Don't know whether time is a great healer or not. Depends on relationship you had with your mother - mine is dead over 30 years and not a day goes by that I don't think of her. But sorry Phleb - it is a great loss.

[Theland]

Mamya is right. Give yourself a break.

[Patsy33]

I feel for you phleb. It's quite usual to feel a mixture of emotions. It's a very difficult time for you, but, in time, you will feel a little stronger and will cope better. I'm sure you're Mum wouldn't want you feeling all these negative emotions. Best wishes. x

[ImLostAgain]

It does get better I promise you. I lost my dear mum only a few years ago aged 92. I miss her still. I too went through the emotions your feeling now. I sometimes still get a pang, it's just not as bad and not for as long. I'm sure your mum wouldn't want you suffer. She'd want you to go on and be strong for her. My thoughts are with you.

[wolf63]

I am sorry to hear about your mum phleb.

If you are not coping with day-to-day life think about visiting your doctor. He/she may prescribe antidepressants - they won't bring your mum back but they may help you cope with the situation.

♥ ♥

[Arksided]

Sorry to read of your tragic loss Phleb, even more so that you were so close. all the best to you.

[Lie-in King]

((phleb)) - my sincere condolences to you, your family & friends. You'll have days when you feel a little better & others when you feel rotten, as you do today, but in the long run the memories of your mum will be those of happier times. x

[ummmm]

I'm so sorry, Phleb. It does get easier but that takes time. xx

[LadyCG]

I remember that day, 25 July, it was that painfully hot Thursday and I was in Munich.

I'm so sorry for your loss. Time does heal eventually xx

[waterboatman]

Your emotions are natural phleb. You will always love and miss your mum, she is the bedrock of your life, but she will always be with you. Remember the happy times, all the fun you had together. The pain will ease, I promise. xxx

[rowanwitch]

Is there anything you specifically feel guilty about... because sometimes that can be harder to deal with.
Its still very soon and normal to feel this way and sorry Wolf on this time I would argue this is not the time to blunt feelings with pills. When I lost my husband last year I reduced my dose I know the best way is to feel as much as you can bear as grief is a natural process and something that is better if you can get through it. The thing I do feel strongly is talk about her, remembering the laughter and good times as well as the bad, it may be you realise that you brought her so much joy and happiness it will start to out weigh any guilty feelings.

[marval]

I am sorry to hear of your loss Phleb. You have nothing to feel guilty about, it is only natural that you miss her.

Please take time for yourself.