Would You Get In One Of These?
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my daughter has been asking if she can have her belly button pierced. I really don't want her to have it done; plus I think, 12 is too young. She asked me this earlier in the year and made such a fuss when I said, not until she was 15 that in the end I compromised and reduced the age to 14. In the summer the same thing, and I compromised again; by letting her have the top of one ear pierced.
She is still awake, stomping around upstairs, after telling me that I am the worst mother in the world. I know I am going to suffer for this, but I am determined not to give in this time.
Do you agree ?
She thinks it will make her more fashionable.
Thanks for your opinions.
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.I think cherrybomb's advice is excellent but I'd just like to add that when I got my bellybutton pierced (at the grand old age of 18!) it took a year for it to heal properly and I've since been told that this is the norm. It's also the easiest piercing to get infected as it isn't exposed to air and can be aggravated by clothes etc. Also, it MUST be cleaned religiously twice a day until it heals to avoid infections and is generally a pretty high maintenance piercing.
I'd also question whether any respectable piercer would pierce a 12 YO. I'm sure it's like tatoos - you need to be a certain age.
I know that some schools ban earrings either all the time or when playing sport, so suggest that any piercings wait till the long summer holidays!
As the others have said, she is a child, stand your ground
yes 12 yo girls are the spawn of satan I know I was, save up all those embarassing moments and "she poohed her pants in public" stories and let it all out at her wedding or any other big event, tell her that you will do this. If it doesn't make her think twice, at least you will have a nice warm feeling looking forward to it!!
That's so familiar- I have a 12 year-old daughter too!
Mine too stamps upstairs and slams the door - If it doesn't make enough noise she slams it another couple of time for additional effect - You can't be the worst mother in the world because she's told me that we are the worst!
Remember that this is probably a symptom of insecurity, girls can be so vicious in their little cliques, as you say she probably thinks she'll get kudos (cred, cool whatever) from this. What you and I know is it's an "arms race" where nobody wins and would probably lead to more and more ostentacious requests - tongue piercing next?
You're right she'll make you suffer but you have to draw the line in the sand and this sounds like a good place.
Best of luck and just remember don't laugh (12 year old girls hate that :c) )
hi everyone,
my daughter is now 19 (she nagged and nagged for her belly button piercing and i think she was about 14 when she had it done) I already had mine done and she used this as a weapon against me. The only reason she wanted it doing was cos all her friends had it done. She had to take it out when she was pregnant and has never bothered having it re pierced. Mine took about 9 months to heal and was very sore and painful a lot of the time.
The descriptions on here of your daughters sounds very familiar, mine used to stomp down the hallway shouting a long drawn out godddddddddddddddddddd at the top of her voice which didnt end til she was in her bedroom. Even now shes nearly 20 she still acts like the spawn of satan sometimes. Take heart they all leave home eventually lol
Ahhhhh, poor her you are really ruining her life you know not letting her carry out her whimsy mutilation. How will she ever find a husband, or get a job.? She wont pass her exams now you know if she doesnt have any piercings.....NOT!
You are her caring mother. It is inapprporit for her to have this done. You have compromised beyond belief, if she is going to continue to sulk, then maybe a removal of another privaledge might focus her mind into realising that there is someone being unreasonable here and it certainly isnt you! What do the school rules say about this? I thought body piercing shops siad you had to be 16 to have that done???And also, the other risks the other pisters have made, would make me think twice.
There is absolutely no way on this earth I would let my tweeny have one done, and frankly the more bamboozled she made me feel, the higher the age I would impose. You are doing the right thing. dont give in, else, what will it be next???? stick to your guns, you are the adult, and she is a child (and at the moment, she is being plain naughty!)
help her to know herself encourage her to set her own style...set her owm trends. show her she doesnt have to follow the crowd. Maybe find some more appropriate role models. What are her interests? see if you can capitalise on them??
Good luck, teenage daughters can be...well I wont even go there! but, Id rather have 10 teenage sons, than 4 daughters!
I'm not an authority on the subject at all, but I didn't think peircings were fashionable at all anymore. And most of my friends are of the 'alt' crowd where body mods are pretty common.
Doesn't a child have to be 16 to get a piercing on their body, or is that just without parental consent? Buy the time she can legally go on her own she'll probably have outgrown the idea. I'd try and talk to her properly, ask her why she thinks it'll be more fashionable. Remind her it's winter now so she wouldn't be able to have her stomach on show so it's a waste of time. That should buy you 6 months or so. If all else fails tell her exactly why you don't want her to have it; if you think it looks cheap, tell her. She might pretend she doesn't want or need your opinion but you'd be surprised.
sandrajo I had to laugh when I read your post. My daughter and I are at peace. I let her read the earlier postings and told her that she would need my consent as 12 is too young and I would not give my consent.
By bedtime she had calmed down and we were friends again. I have just got out of the shower and as I crept past her bedroom she said... mum, can I have a tattoo instead then?
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