There's a lovely Irish Girl...

[snapdarlich]

chasing me around. I am enjoying the attention, but I don't feel I deserve it. I'm overweight and balding...

I study music and she started following me after I played a solo in a class. She's really lovely and quite beautiful, but I feel she is wasting her time with me.

What on earth do I do?

[merdok]

What is your personality like?

I'm short and overweight with a tremendously large nose, at school I was regularly bullied and I'm a bit of a geek. However I'm funny and I'm charming and I'm a really nice guy... I've been with my incredibly beautiful girlfriend for over 6 years now.

Looks are not everything, if you dislike her or you are gay or terminally ill, then you are right to think that she is wasting her time with you. If you are unconfident and shy then it is her decision to make... personally I'd be inclined to give her the chance to make it.

[ELVIS68]

Stop moaning about it i`m not overweight but i`ve got a bed n breakfast head...half bald.........she`s obviously keen on you or she wouldn`t be following you around, unless you`ve got a tenner hanging oout of your back pocket

[snapdarlich]

...it was a �20 - woops. I just feel so old and out of touch sometimes. But my nose is as cute as a button!

Thanks merdok - I think we're all kind of geeks on here (even if just a little bit!) and ...pi$$ off ELVIS (baldy!)...LOL!!

[JackDanielsU]

snapdarlich

Whatever you do dont think you dont deserve anything, because of the way you are

Thats not the way to go, believe me I know.

Take the lass out for a drink, find out more about her. Im sure you will find out other things in common. And the least that can happen is you get a great female friend.

Im sure the ladies of the board will agree with everything posted here

[maximo]

You got get yourself some confidence, Snappy! This girl is obviously interested in you ! I know I ALWAYS fall for people who have a talent, and if you can play music, you get so many brownie points, you'd have enough to sell the spare ones on Ebay ! lol Believe me, looks are NOT everything (although I'm sure you're lovely ! ). Talk to the girl, and see if you like her ( for her personality, though...it goes both ways, you know ). Take care ! Max.

[snapdarlich]

Cheers JD and Max....

It's just been a while and plenty's happened in the last few years to knock me a bit...

Just don't trust people much at the moment... She's lovely though. I'm always wound up and she takes it away...She's just a nice person...and I love the way her cheeks go red when she talks to me...I'm going to shut up now - I'm havering...sorry.

[ELVIS68]

go for it snappy , you`ll only regret it, give her one from me....a music lesson that is

[lindapinda]

Snappy,as a Belfast girl myself,you'd better believe,that someone with a gsoh,is an absolute must!.That is part and parcel of what you like about someone!..You have that!!..Hairline to me,is not an issue..!!.If she's interested in you as a person..which she obviously is..go for a friendly drink!! Relax..take it from there,and trust your instincts!! Good luck xx

[PhilBy]

If you are a gentleman explore her interest....... true love can come to all but it is the blessed couple who can keep it....

Put above all....... be yourself.

[funnywebsite]

She obviously likes your personality. Looks are not everything. I wonder how certain people get together sometimes when you see attractive women with ugly men but it shows it's your personality they like which is the main thing. When I met me husband he made me laugh so much. OK I found him attractive as well but he doubled his attraction with his personality. Go for it...Take her out for a drink.

[Scarlett]

She, like me, is one of those girls who goes for the X factor rather than "good" looks. She obviously thinks you are cute and sexy and talented- and I am sure you are. Stop putting yourself down and allow yourself some time with this girl!

[indian]

Snappy everyone has different tastes. If all girls went for were brad pitt lookielikes half the world would be single!

Also, you'll be suprised how attractive someone with a great personality can become and vice versa!

SHE is lucky to be with YOU not the other way round! Go for it, and let us know what happens!

[Lore]

look at it this way snappy, she's chasing you, not the other way round so why on earth would you think you don't deserve it?

You obviously have qualities that this girl finds attractive and of course, a good sense of humour - which we've all noticed btw!! :oP
besides, you have the ability to serenade her (every womans dream!) lol

Snappy, Please stop putting yourself down and do something about it!

Don't make me send Elvis round to sing you a song about being lonely! :oP

Good luck lil snappy one :)

[Jay70]

Life is too short to miss great oppertunities. Go for it.

[Englishbird]

I have a thing for singers, doesn't matter what they look like, if they have fantastic voices, i'm theirs!!

We really don't go for people because of the way they look, we might think we do, but we don't. you might fall for the sparkle in someone's eyes, for the way they laugh, or for the way they handle a situation.

There are many things we fall for, and talent is most definately one of them.

There are no guarentee's but he who dares ...

Good luck x

[Morgus]

She's one of the good people who looks beyond the exterior and sees the real person within.

You have a common interest in music, so that's a great place to start from.

There is a quote that is sometimes attributed to Mark Twain. It's one I try to remember when I'm having to make tough decisions:

"Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn't do than by the ones you did do"

My instinct is to at least give it a try and make some happy memories for the future.

All the best.

[wooo12]

SHE likes YOU. she likes youuuuuuuuuuuu. go for it!! maybe the only way your going to get over your fear of trusting is to trust her.

let us know how it goes. Good Luck xx

[snapdarlich]

Thank you all for your answers. I'll try and take heed.

Thank you.

[gary baldy]

It never ceases to amaze me how un-shallow women are (compared to us men). They generally dont give a monkey's what you look like. i am a fat, balding four eyes but i have always hit well above my weight with women. They see things that we dont see - you sound alright to me and i wish i had your talent (women love that sort of thing i'm sure).Anyway its too late for me - i'm married. Lifes too short mate - take every opportunity that presents itself.

[Scarlett]

Gary I was just going to say the same thing. It is only men who have an issue with looks and weight.