Husband. Erratic Moods, Anger, Frustration.

[Patsy33]

Although my OH has never been diagnosed, he certainly displays traits of bipolar. His Mother was the same. Diagnosed with Hypomania.
He's just been thumping computer and monitor in frustration because he couldn't do something that should have been straight forward. He's like an angry , frustrated child at times. Last couple of weeks, he's been on a high. Excited, keep laughing about things. He has so much energy when he's like that. I wasn't going to say anything but it's getting me down. I suppose I should ring doctor but doubt they will do anything much. They will probably say he needs to go and seem them. I know he won't do that..Just needed to get this off my chest.

[barry1010]

How long have you known him? Has he always had these mood swings or has he changed recently? How old is he? Is he on medication for anything at all?

[Smowball]

Was just going to say same as Barry - how old is he…..

[Patsy33]

He's always been like it. He seems to be better for a while then it happens again. I've asked him lots of times to see doctor but he ignores me. He is 69.

[barry1010]

If he won't see the doctor or recognise that he has a problem you have only got two options: put up with it as you have been doing or make it very clear to him that you can't cope with his behaviour any longer and if he doesn't take steps to get help the marriage is over.

Speak to his GP in any case.

[Chinajan]

How terribly stressful and upsetting for you Patsy. I couldn't live like that. You must walk on eggshells, waiting for the next instance.

There is treatment available if the condition is as you suspect. If he really, really won't seek medical assistance there may be some difficult decisions ahead for you.

[Patsy33]

That's what I feel like saying, Barry. I'm worried it will make him worse. I will have a word with Doctor when he's not around. I'll probably have to wait 2/3 weeks!..

[Patsy33]

Yes, it's very stressful, Chinajan. I do feel anxious in his company at times. I'm the one on medication, when it should be him...

[Chinajan]

Patsy, how do you think your GP will be able to help?

[Bobbisox1]

I feel for you Patsy, will your doctor even discuss your husband with you though?

[barry1010]

Patsy, I found this which you might find helpful. It says that if the person you are concerned about won't seek help, write to their GP in the first instance.
https://www.mindcharity.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2015/10/are_you_worried_about_someones_mental_health_factsheet.pdf

[barry1010]

Bobbi, the GP may not discuss her husband but he will certainly listen.

[barry1010]

Lockdown must be exacerbating the situation, Patsy. I suggest when things are back to normal that if he is behaving in a way that makes you anxious or uncomfortable - go out, visit a friend or relative or just go for a walk.
If you have a friend or relative you could stay with for a night or two, all the better.

[Patsy33]

I did reply to all of you but internet keeps going off!
Thanks Barry. Will have a read.

[Smowball]

Oh Patsy I really feel for you - it sounds a very difficult situation at times. How long have you been married??

[Patsy33]

Smow, 46 years.

[Patsy33]

I'm hoping that Dr will talk with him and encourage him to take appropriate medication to calm him down. His mind is racing all the time. He talks non stop. He doesn't always listen, he talks at you. He's never slept properly, either..

[Bobbisox1]

Yes Barry I’m sure he/she will but then what? I’d imagine they’d advise Patsy for her husband to contact a different body , if he refuses to go to see his GP now I can’t see him going to someone else and he may get angry at Patsy for contacting them , I truly feel for her situation

[Patsy33]

Our internet is a bit dodgy at the moment, so if you don't get a reply, know what it is!..

[JJ109]

Hyperthyroidism?? (hope sqad can say yea ar nay).

[Patsy33]

Yes, Bobby. I get the blame for everything..