Don't know why you made yourself user-inactive - but RH was only a making a point - she is still here and you aren't - you haven't done anything wrong at all.
Perhaps all the upset you came through yesterday with your niece and sister has made you more upset and upsettling.
You are maybe feeling "vulnerable" at the moment which is not in your character. So as wee Irish would say "catch yerself on".
The banning was more than justified. And now that I think about it, the words that resulted in banning may have been what triggered Bobbi leaving. A sad occurrence.
I didn't see what transpired but teacake44 is no longer a member here and was warned by The Ed about her behaviour on RH72's thread, so that may have something to do with it.