Do You Think Losing Friends Anc Acquaintances Can Have Some Bearing On Your Mental Heslth

[Bobbisox1]

I’ve always been a glass half full person but lately I’m feeling very down , I have lost quite a few people only in the last few months and another a year ago through COVID , I’d think it’s around 6/7 of my friends and acquaintances have passed away within a short time of one another, I’m looking at my own mortality more at 75,something that would never have entered my head only a few months ago , does anyone else feel the last two years have taken their toll on us?

[Teapots1]

Everyone has good and bad days /times, and if you didn't feel somewhat down after losing friends then there would be something wrong with you, and the same goes for the past 2 years of difficulty regarding our normal everyday life that's been turned up side down. I remember what someone said to me a long time ago, ( don't see problems being problems, see it like a challenge ) some may say that's a load of BS. I can honestly say its worked for me 9 times out of 10.

When you have a down day find something completely different to do other than your normal day direction.
An example, I like to garden now and again, but because the weather is crap its not great being outside paddling in mud. This week I was bored, so I've been out bought six new pots, and six new house plants and potted them up, and re-soiled the old ones. House looks great with new plants.

Its been done over 2 days , going out to get the pots and plants, and a day taken up potting. You may say well what now? the problem is still there, it may be a little, but way way less, and I've not spent 2 days thinking about it, and by the 3rd day the chances are you will be thinking of something not connected to any sort bad feeling.

To conclude, if you are able, get out and about, bad feeling deplete in the cool fresh air, and you focus on other things around you. Amen

[Bobbisox1]

Thank you Teapots1

[pat2604]

Can I add this to this thread? Yes I think Bobbi won't mind. We went out for lunch today and as hadn't left the house for a week or two I was really enjoying myself. Sat down near a couple - probably in their fifties. Fortunately tables very well spaced. He sat there looking quite ill and blowing his nose and when she got up pay he had a sneezing fit! Didn't attempt to cover his face or even face away from us. We pulled our masks over our faces again. His wife said nothing. If this had happened a few years ago I wouldn't probably take much notice. But today I now feel worried. So our mental health has suffered and we have become more fearful.

When they left I told one staff member that their table and surrounds needed sterilising. I just can't understand some folk. It's worse because I'm considered vulnerable!

And Bobbi, we have told our son we are worried about him, but as he's a key member of his company he says he has to keep going. He says he's having account day break in May!!

[Patsy33]

I think this time of year, everything seems worse. By not doing as much in the winter time, we have more time to dwell on things.
I suppose we need to grieve after losing close friends. It will show itself one way or another if we try to hold it all in. What with being bombarded with bad news, i.e, the pandemic all the time.
You will get your mojo back, Bobbie. It will take a little time. Just remember you're not alone with these feelings, lots of us are in the same boat.
Try and concentrate on uplifting/positive things. Turn the news off! Roll on spring. xx

[Bobbisox1]

Thank you Patsy xx
Pat that’s appalling and these aren’t young people , usually the brunt of peoples anger re mask wearing , I hope your son doesn’t burn himself out x

[pat2604]

The thing was they put their masks on as they left the table. Why on earth did he think it was ok to go out like that and sit in a restaurant, especially in today's climate of rampant Covid!! He didn't even try to suppress his enormous sneezes.

[jennyjoan]

Pat I would have been fuming - hope the girl sterilised the whole area they were in.

[pat2604]

I was fuming JJ. I really wanted to tell him how I felt, but wasn't prepared to get near to him or shout in public

[RandyMarsh]

PAt2604, i recognise that avatar, were you someone else here previously?

[pat2604]

The table was cleared and then sterilised, but not the chairs. They were closing when we left, so all should be ok when they open tomorrow. He looked quite ill, so even if Covid was not around, I can't understand why he was out and about.

[Mamyalynne]

Randy, yes that is Lofty Lottie.

[pat2604]

Hello Randy. I've missed you. LoftyLottie aka FP
How are you xx

[pastafreak]

She'll always be Lottie to me. I hate change ;)

[LadyCG]

Howdy Triggs. I wondered what had happened to you over the years.

[RandyMarsh]

You don't forget a face like that eh?, my heart soars to see you both. I won't intrude on this deep deep thread but my giggles of delight.
All i need know is Boo and Fluff.

[RandyMarsh]

Hello LadyCG, I have looked in from time to time, I had some serious fathering to do and then work work work work. It seems like the last 5 years have just gone in an instant.

[RandyMarsh]

Are you good? x

[LadyCG]

I am, thank you. I settled down with a nice man and had a little rat of my own. Life is a slog at times (work work work) but I wouldn't have it any other way.

It's a far cry from where I was 10 years ago when my life fell apart. I never really saw you after that but its good to see you post again x

[LadyCG]

I never forget you once saying how you loved making your daughter laugh until she wet herself ❤

[pat2604]

I'm alive but not kicking!! But you have made my dayx. Keep in touch. I'm still in touch with Boo, Fluffy and China on FB. X