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Is It Normal To Feel Like This?
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At the moment I'm struggling to get a job still living at home and single or not enough of a social life I'm constantly feeling down
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Barsel, are you keeping notes on abbeys queries and how many times she's responded? Plenty of others on here do not respond immediately and sometimes not at all...even regular posters like you and I. Maybe so much advice is a lot to take in. I too hope Abbey comes back...with more questions if necessary. Abbey is not here in disguise. Ab Editor did say she'd...
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Abbey
Your first step is to get a job and stay in it for a year minimum. Forget about your social life, concentrate on your job.
Or, as has been mentioned, go to college and get some qualifications.
Good luck.
Abbey
Your first step is to get a job and stay in it for a year minimum. Forget about your social life, concentrate on your job.
Or, as has been mentioned, go to college and get some qualifications.
Good luck.
oh bobbing you tease you
1970 I recollect part time day release - salisbury tech - Zoology A level was full of young clerks itching to get off the lowest rung and aware they hadnt achieved at skool and that was a disadvantage.
The leddy Mayor of Salisbury visited us and said to 'Sir' - why does that rifleman need to know Zoology?
Yup we were supported by all and sundry.
1970 I recollect part time day release - salisbury tech - Zoology A level was full of young clerks itching to get off the lowest rung and aware they hadnt achieved at skool and that was a disadvantage.
The leddy Mayor of Salisbury visited us and said to 'Sir' - why does that rifleman need to know Zoology?
Yup we were supported by all and sundry.
Sorry to digress but does anyone know what PP is talking about?
Abbylee, lots of us have advised you , helped you but for whatever reasons, you don’t appear to take any notice,it’s been said a hundred times before, take a job, any job and work toward getting a flat,most of what you want from life will fall into place,you don’t like the job? Look for another that you will like but make sure there’s a wage coming in to pay rent , electricity,gas etc, at 30+ years , you must take responsibility for your path in life , nothing in life is free, you have to work for it, good luck
Abbylee, lots of us have advised you , helped you but for whatever reasons, you don’t appear to take any notice,it’s been said a hundred times before, take a job, any job and work toward getting a flat,most of what you want from life will fall into place,you don’t like the job? Look for another that you will like but make sure there’s a wage coming in to pay rent , electricity,gas etc, at 30+ years , you must take responsibility for your path in life , nothing in life is free, you have to work for it, good luck
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// helped you but for whatever reasons, you don’t appear to take any notice//
Not picking on you bobbi as others have said similar but I suspect I understand the underlying problem.
Giving advice and taking advice are two different things, especially when one feels in a rut.
Abbey, you sound very similar to one of my daughters, she saw the other two go to Uni and get good jobs but she struggled to come to terms with growing up then found herself at 30 in a similar position to you. I got her to write down (not for me to see) what she wanted to do with her life and look at which was most important to her happiness. For instance above (sound) advice says find a job first but I know that will be near impossible if you really dont feel so down about yourself as you will project your feelings at any interview/chat.
So try that, and then set yourslef small goals to get out of it. I will be honest with you, it is highly unlikely to all get fixed in one go but on the positive side once you get going it is often amazing what then falls into place. It's the getting going that is difficult I know.
I am sure it will get better for you so chin up and face the world with a smile (even if you dont feel like it yourself). A positive outlook will help you with your social life too :-)
Not picking on you bobbi as others have said similar but I suspect I understand the underlying problem.
Giving advice and taking advice are two different things, especially when one feels in a rut.
Abbey, you sound very similar to one of my daughters, she saw the other two go to Uni and get good jobs but she struggled to come to terms with growing up then found herself at 30 in a similar position to you. I got her to write down (not for me to see) what she wanted to do with her life and look at which was most important to her happiness. For instance above (sound) advice says find a job first but I know that will be near impossible if you really dont feel so down about yourself as you will project your feelings at any interview/chat.
So try that, and then set yourslef small goals to get out of it. I will be honest with you, it is highly unlikely to all get fixed in one go but on the positive side once you get going it is often amazing what then falls into place. It's the getting going that is difficult I know.
I am sure it will get better for you so chin up and face the world with a smile (even if you dont feel like it yourself). A positive outlook will help you with your social life too :-)