wot shall i do?

[shanks]

have been accused of being unfaithful which i have not,there is a girl in the pub who fancies me and has made it plain we could get it on,the wife and I have not had sex for months wot should I do

[p_2225]

your wife is your wife for one reason........ def talk it out and dont do anything rash!!! time is so precious now!!!!!! take some time apart maybe, but just remember why she is your wife, and hopefully you can work things out... good luck

[dot.hawkes]

Try to find out why your wife doesn't fancy you but the potentially marriage wrecking slapper in the pub does.

[Greedyfly]

I think you should talk to your wife and sort it out. There should be a handbook that comes with every marriage I have just decided. Although I am unsure who would write it.

[kipchik]

Please don't do what my old man did,when he went off with the bint that he met,anything i felt for him started dying and when i had him back,it didn't improve,now,i'm unhappy and don't know what to do!This slapper in the pub is interested probably because you're married,its the thrill of the chase.Dont give up on your marriage,try to talk to your wife,sort out your problems together,if she isn't interested in talking to you,consider going to talk to a counseller on your own,i wish i had,cos then i wouldn't be SO unhappy now.

[curiosity]

You should just think, What would I want my wife to do in this situation? Then, you should think about when you first met your wife, what you felt you would do to have her as your wife, and how proud you were of your true love. That might help, then, give your wife a big hug, thank god that you havent done anything, realise you and your wife need some together time and hey presto. Hope this helps.

[lankeela]

shag the bird in the pub and blame the wife for not letting you have sex for months and accusing you of being unfaithful.

[allen63b]

Although I like lankeela's style!!

You have to ask yourself who is will be there for you in the long run! Maybe if you stopped going down the pub the missus might appreciate it and who knows!

I would personally take the wife away for a few days without the kids if possible and try and rekindle the spark that hopefully was once there.

[zara 4]

Yeah you could always pass the blame to your wife,then end up bitter for the rest of your life but thats not a good look!

[noxlumos]

Well firstly I don't know you, your wife, or the girl in the pub and I'm not about to guess how nice/nasty any of you are. Just because your wife is your wife does not make her the nicer of the two women or in the right and just because the girl fancies you does not make her a"slapper" or in the wrong.

Examine what's wrong in your marriage however,and try to get some lines of communication open and make some decisions. If your marriage is worth saving then try to save it and if it's not, cut your losses and move on.

My first wife was an utter bitch, my second is wonderful. All people are different and you have only one life so make rational, reasoned decisions to be happy, but don't just go chasing the first girl that comes along because your wife doesn't want to have sex with you.

[joko]

well said nox.

sometimes its best to just cut your losses than carry on flogging a dead horse, just because you are married.
you only get one life - life spend it being miserable and making someone else miserable?

however, only you can decide whether your marriage can be saved though - we don't know the details

i suspect lankeela gave you the answer you really wanted though....mmm? permission, green light, encouragement...?

[treacle84]

Are there other problems in your marriage? Communication etc? I've been accused of cheating when I haven't and it really hurt. I think you should tell your wife about this woman and make it clear nothing has gone on. Then talk to your wife about your own relationship and discuss ways in which to make it better for you both.

Your wife maybe steering clear of you in the bedroom because she is really stressed out in thinking you're seeing someone else so reassure her this isn't what is happening and go from there.

If this doesn't work then maybe some time apart to think about why you married each other and whether it is worth saving is probably a good idea.

I wish you all the luck in the world x

[rossbray]

y not m8 y not m8 lol

[lia*]

off course, you know you should not be unfaithful to your wife. you know the right thing to do, if the tables were turned, would you like your wife to be unfaithful to you? communication is very important in a relationship. have you ever flirted with this girl or encouraged her in any way? did you all stop having sex since you started visiting the pub?