Les Mate

[JenniferG]

So i found out last night that one of my best friends is a Lesbian! oh my god! im mean i always thought she was a bit different but i assumed her manly hobbies were to atrract men not to be like one! so what do i do now try and avoid? anyone got any experience in this? what if she tries it on with me or something eww! now i think about it as well she does have those wondering eyes!

[undercovers]

don't be daft - she has not "change" she has always been this person and nothing should change in your relationship - unless you are too small minded to accept her sexuality.

[johnlambert]

Do nothing, why should the fact that you have discovered that she is gay change anything? has she tried it on with you? has she ever shown any sexuall interest in you?

If she does try her luck (and I dont supose for a minute thtat she will) tell her that you value her friendship but, although you are flattered, you are 100% straight. She will respect you for your honesty

[johnlambert]

and what undercovers said

[Frankie Babe]

Has she tried it on before? If not why would she now?

Don't try & avoid anything - nothing's 'changed', you just know something you didn't yesterday morning. Just be her mate - if her best friend can't be understanding, who can?

[kick3m0n]

why do such narrow minded people think that any gay person will immediately fancy them? it's a bizarre mixture of paranoia and extreme egotism which is hideously unattractive.

You're really not much of a best pal if this revelation changes the way you view her. If this post reflects how you really feel then perhaps you should avoid her, cos with friends like you, who needs enemies.

p.s. I think you mean wandering eyes, but maybe not?!

[gessoo]

One of my best friends was really upset when she admitted to me she was a lesbian. It hadn't dawned on me at all. It hasn't made the slightest difference to our friendship. She is still my lovely friend, but just has different sexual preferences.

Why should she come on to you? I don't understand why you think this might happen. You have a bit of a dated attitude here!!!

Her sexuality is her business and shouldn't make any difference to your friendship. If you feel different about her because of what you have learned then that is your problem and she is better off without you as her friend.

[gessoo]

Posted the same time as kick3m0n with much the same content!!

[brawburd]

Oh for goodness sake JenniferG. She obviously thought enough of you as a friend to trust you with this, and you repay that trust by sounding narrow-minded, immature and ignorant.

[kick3m0n]

clearly a case of "great minds..." gessoo. x

[Morrisonker]

I agree, don't be so arrogant, why should she fancy you? Just because you're a girl? I bet you have a few male friends you don't fancy, why should it be different for her.

On the other hand, if you are getting vibes from her which make you think she's being flirty all you have to do is ask 'do we have to talk about this?' and see what she says. It's a fairly safe way of asking an awkward question.

[nannon]

glad my friends didnt have the same reaction when i met my ex (whi was a girl) they didnt even flinch they just asked if i was happy and when could they meet her.

Grow up!!

[Ethel]

I am a much older person and am genuinely shocked that anybody would react like this these days.

Your friend is the same person and needs your support.

[Jennykins]

Dont worrie about it.. I have lots of gay friends and I pretend most of the time there straight haha... What I mean is.. If I see a hottie guy.. I say to my gay g-friend.. "isnt he HOT" and she will either say 'meh'.. or 'yes'.. something like that.. Oh and I do have a really clouse friend who is BI and we have been like sistas for years.. then last weekend for the FIRST time EVER she hit on me and told me she wanted me.. I told her to give her head a shake and drop it or Fu..K off.. haha So she said sorry and droped it.. Then we went to the gym the next day and continued with our normal lives.. haha

JEN

[pipparooney]

Hi

A few years ago one of my friends came out at 29. She had been married so it never even crossed my mind.

She's the same person to me,who she chooses to have a relationship with is up to her.We have been friends since middle school.

Dont let it spoil your friendship. She could do with your support right now. If she's a good friend i dont think she'll try it on with you.

[Greedyfly]

OMG - It amazes me that people are still so naiive about this. She doesn't want to be like a man she's just attracted to women rather than men. She is the same person you knew before she told you but now you know more about her, what does it matter if she sleeps with women rather than men. Most women check other women out gay or not its competition and making ourselves aware of other women's bodies - its natural. All people are different, we'd live in a pretty boring world if we were all the same carbon copy and all straight/gay.

[RogK]

Congratulate her on being gay, have a good laugh about it all and get on with your friendship.

[malaise]

JenniferG : Grow up. She told you because she TRUSTED you and now you're acting like a total child and screeching about it to the internet. I bet she's glad to have a friend like you.

[LouBoo]

I also find your answer genuinely disturbing. But also childish. I don't know how old you are, but you need to grow up and change your attitude. You have not once considered how hard it was for your friend to tell you this, or how she feels about it.

The world doesn't revolve around you.

[dancealot13]

JenniferG- Girl you are making me laugh!! Im in theater so Im used to that "world" (I don't mean that as something prejudice) But just because someone is lesbian doesn't mean they like ALL women. Plus any normal homosexual wouldn't hit on a straight person.. except for fun of course. Im straight so why would I hit on someone who is homosexual? Ya know what I mean?

I have a lot of gay friends, and when my boyfriend comes out with us sometimes he says "they better not hit on me." And of course they dont. They'll tell ME he's hot, but they would never hit on him because they know he wouldn't be comfortable with that.

[kazminx]

go ethel!!!