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Women asking out Men
What are peoples views on women asking out men? Do men prefer to do the asking out or do they like women to take control? I really like someone at the moment and not sure whether to be patient or be brave and ask him out for a drink! I think the main reason i dont want to ask him is the fear of rejection as i am not 100% sure he is definitely keen...x
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.I think it's fine for a woman to initiate it. You basically have 3 choices:-
1. Ask him out.
2. Flirt and give out all the right signals and then wait for him to do the asking, or;
3. Sit back and hope for the best!
If you do choose to make the first move then this will give off a clear indication that you are a strong and focused woman. If he likes that trait then you're quids in!
Best of luck. x
You know you want to ask him out so just do it now and stop worring about what he might say! if he doesnt like you at least you'll know and you can get on with things, trust me thats the worst that can happen. dont read to far deeply into every word this man says to you im sure he didnt think this deep about saying it, now go get him tiger!
JUST DO IT - you sound like you're a worrier to me - I bet this is all you're thinking/talking about.
There are people out there with real problems and this may even turn out to be the best thing that ever happened to you, far from a 'problem'
If you don't ask you'll never know and not knowing is surely worse than being turned down. The way I look at it its a fifty fifty situation, either yes or no, although from what you've said it sounds like the odds are more in your favour. Whats the worse that could happen??? Work is only work and you could ask him in a semi professional way then if he says no, you could play it down. Besides you only regret the thing that you don't do in life!!!!!
Well maybe you just have to wait until the conversation gets to a really pleasant point and say lightheartedly, "You know, you're really nice. I'd be tempted to invite you out for a drink if I wasn't so darned frightened of being rejected".
And then quickly move the topic on to something else to avoid embrarrassment. If he doesn't take a hint as broad as that he probably wants to avoid dating while you're working in the same company. And you've given him the opening he needs if he's as frightened of rejection as you are.