Suicide

[4getmenot]

When someone kills themself do you think its a selfish thing or something they wanted so you're glad they're at peace now?

[stylinsam]

when i found my friend she was hanging from her door it is the most awful thing i have ever had to see i think she choose me also as she was thinking about her parents and didnt want to cause them anymore distress, i think she thought i would be able to cope which i did. i was paniked at first and didnt no what to do i just ran from her bedroom around to her next door neighbour who called an ambulance and her parents. i couldnt go back into the house as i was to distressed. but i believe she is at peace now in a better place and hopefully she watches over me and guides me when im making decisions as she made her desicion to choose me sorry to get all soppy on you all.

[4getmenot]

You see when one of my freinds killed himself, he had new lodgers and those poor girls found him. Others were found by family and police.

[noxlumos]

When I was a little boy I was physically abused/tortured by my father ( hit, burned, cut etc) who at the time and afterwards I felt had taken utter control over every aspect of my life as what he did was so all consuming that all day I couldn't really think of anything else at all.Obviously I didn't want this to happen but I couldn't stop him and I felt awful and desperate so for me thoughts about suicide when still a very small child was actually about regaining my power and taking control back from someone who was abusing me.I felt it would have given me control and a form of reassertion and defiance. As it goes my father was killed when I was seven so I got a lucky break in some ways but even when I was older the same thing applied, I self harmed until I had "gone over" every mark he'd ever put on me, then they were my marks and didn't bother me anymore,so for me self harming was not destructive either, it was part of a much bigger healing process. It sounds absurd but it is I think literally sometimes suicide is merely a way in which the person can regain some level of control over themselevs, others and the way they feel when they see no other way of doing so.

I think it is a brave thing to do by and large but when it's contemplated you feel so awful that you are unable to adequately judge the pain you'll cause some you leave behind.I think it's also important to remember that thoughts/ feelings change on a minute by minute basis and that the overwhelming feeling of the need to commit suicide is actually only an inability to cope in that partcular time frame. Things do alter and I'm so glad that I never did kill myself as my life is extremely happy now.

[4getmenot]

noxlumus I am so glad that your life turned out ok and you are happy now. I guess with your father what goes around comes around. It is so good that you can even talk about it now. Well done you.

[gedk]

I accept that for a person to even consider taking their own life they cannot be thinking rationally, however I do think people who kill themselves by throwing themselves in front of buses or off motorway bridges or parking in the middle of level crossings are extremely selfish as they not only harm themselves but dramatically alter the lives of the train drivers etc who hit them. Surely it would be less painful to take a load of painkillers / alcohol? I also cannot understand people who want to end their own lives and choose to take their poor kids with them.

[4getmenot]

That�s exactly what I was going to say next. That although still horrible surely painkillers is the best way to go. There was a woman last week that threw herself off a bridge onto the M25, whoever hit her will have flashbacks for the rest of their life. What right does anyone have to ruin someone else�s life, that�s why I couldn�t be a train driver. And then that women last year that chucked herself infront of a train along with her two children. And her husband watched his son die on the track. Disgusting.

[gessoo]

Someone I know aged 19 threw himself in front of a train. In his state of mind I doubt whether he would or even could be thinking of others. Who knows what we might do whilst in such a terrible state.

[gessoo]

Personally, I don't think we can condemn any action by someone so disturbed that they kill themselves. Constant mental anguish could lead any of us to do irrational things.